This whole week I have been VERY concerned with the security of our website for Kristy, since we are getting up to 5,000 hits per day. I have decided to make a change. You will no longer be able to log into the site (for the simple reason that anyone in the world could delete the entire blog with one button). THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER is that Kristy's family and friends need these letters and tributes to keep coming!! You can still leave comments under posts already written and don't need to login to do that. Please email me your letters you would like me to post. I will keep everything confidential unless you sign your name on the bottom. I plan on publishing this blog into a book for Kristy's family eventually, so we still need all your letters! Have I mentioned I still want you to write letters?? :)
Please email letters you want me to post here: kristymemoryblog@yahoo.com
Much Love,
Sarah Smylie
Friday, January 11, 2008
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Gentle
I was listening to Michael McLean's the collection tonight and the song "Gentle" stood out as the song that most reminds me of Kristy and this whole mess we are all dealing with. (One heart in the right place is a close second)
Like a gentle wind can blow the clouds from the sky,
Like a gentle touch can ease the pain of goodbye.
Like a gentle smile embraces empty souls in lonely places, We should be more gentle with ourselves.
Like the friend who gently builds us up when we're down,
Like a gentle kiss can turn our world all around.
We've been hurt by others often; we've forgiven and forgotten; we should be as gentle with ourselves.
Life can be hard but we need not be so hard on ourselves,
If we will see...
Like the Shepherd leads His flock with gentle commands,
With His gentle voice that only hearts understand,
One thing we can know for certain He has borne the awful burden, so that we can be gentle with ourselves.
One thing I know for certain: He will bear my every burden, so I can be gentle with myself.
-- Jon
Like a gentle wind can blow the clouds from the sky,
Like a gentle touch can ease the pain of goodbye.
Like a gentle smile embraces empty souls in lonely places, We should be more gentle with ourselves.
Like the friend who gently builds us up when we're down,
Like a gentle kiss can turn our world all around.
We've been hurt by others often; we've forgiven and forgotten; we should be as gentle with ourselves.
Life can be hard but we need not be so hard on ourselves,
If we will see...
Like the Shepherd leads His flock with gentle commands,
With His gentle voice that only hearts understand,
One thing we can know for certain He has borne the awful burden, so that we can be gentle with ourselves.
One thing I know for certain: He will bear my every burden, so I can be gentle with myself.
-- Jon
The Younger Years
I knew Kristy when we were just kids...well close enough...we were just in junior high... I met her through her cousin Carrie Simpson...who I had grown up with...When I met Kristy it was @ Carrie's house in Caldwell,Idaho. She was just as everyone has said she was...a spitfire personality...a laugh that was heard from one end of the house to the other and a smile that would keep you smiling for hours :)...we had so much fun talking about boys and just having fun like girls do at that age...I remember that first day we met, she made me feel like we had known each other forever...I had not seen nor heard of her since we were kids...I was sitting @ the dinner table @ my mothers house with my siblings when my mother had received the call...she did not want to tell us because she did not want it to ruin the good spirit of the sabbath...but I wanted to know (as we are all curious) when she told us what happened my heart immediatley sank and tears streamed down my cheeks...what a horrible tragedy to happen to such a wonderful woman of god...but I know that she is where she needs to be at this time although it is hard for us all and especially to the Palizzi family...we will all see Kristy again...that is what is so great about the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints! We believe there is life after death and that we will see all of those whom we have loved and lost with open arms again.
Kristy- you are amazing and I know that you are doing great work for the Lord and are watching over all of us. May your family be blessed for the great work you have done here and the lives you have changed. You Rock!! See you later girl!!
Love always,
Stacie Carlson :)
Kristy- you are amazing and I know that you are doing great work for the Lord and are watching over all of us. May your family be blessed for the great work you have done here and the lives you have changed. You Rock!! See you later girl!!
Love always,
Stacie Carlson :)
I had the wonderful opportunity to visit with Kristy's mom this week, and even though we were there to comfort her, I came away feeling so comforted by her. What an amazing lady. I can see where Kristy gets her strength from. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
I think we have all spent this week wondering why this had to happen, and there are no answers. But if there is any good that can come from such a horrendous experience, it is that each of us are pondering our own lives and what we can do better. How can I be a better mom, sister, friend, visiting teacher and neighbor. We have a great example to look to in the life Kristy led.
I am so grateful for the wonderful wards and neighborhood we live in. I am so glad that even though we are now the 34th and 36th Wards, we have all come together as neighbors and friends to comfort and grieve together. I'm so grateful for our Priesthood leaders and the guidance, counsel, and inspiration they have shown us this week. Thanks to each of you for the example you are to me. Thank you to Kristy and Dave's families for the example of Christlike love they are showing all of us in a time of profound loss. I'm so grateful to have known Kristy
I think we have all spent this week wondering why this had to happen, and there are no answers. But if there is any good that can come from such a horrendous experience, it is that each of us are pondering our own lives and what we can do better. How can I be a better mom, sister, friend, visiting teacher and neighbor. We have a great example to look to in the life Kristy led.
I am so grateful for the wonderful wards and neighborhood we live in. I am so glad that even though we are now the 34th and 36th Wards, we have all come together as neighbors and friends to comfort and grieve together. I'm so grateful for our Priesthood leaders and the guidance, counsel, and inspiration they have shown us this week. Thanks to each of you for the example you are to me. Thank you to Kristy and Dave's families for the example of Christlike love they are showing all of us in a time of profound loss. I'm so grateful to have known Kristy
A Letter to Dear Kristy
I used to live right across the street from Kristy when she lived in the Jordan Meadows ward. There has not been one moment each day that I haven't reflected & pondered about Kristy & her boys since last Sunday. I too like Kim, have started & restarted writing this post. Some how words alone cannot justify the feelings that I have in my heart & soul at this time. I think that the easiest way for me to express myself is by writing a letter to her. Before I do that however, I want Kristy's family & boys to know that they are in our hearts & prayers & we hope that you know how much we all loved Kristy.
Kristy,
When I first found out the horrible thing that happened to you I dropped to my knees & said "No, not Kristy!" Then the tears began to pour. I thought to myself, how could something like this happen to such a giving & truly Christlike person? I think that it will take me a while to feel peace about the whole thing however I do know that we will see each other again someday. What a joyous time that will be for so many of us that loved you so much.
Kristy I want to thank you from the depths of my heart for reaching out to me & befriending me when I moved to Lehi. You were the first person that really tried to get to know me & invite me to do things so I felt I had a friend. It always amazed me that no matter what the situation was, you were always so aware of other people's needs. You wanted to know everything you could about me & everyone else so that you could help us out. I too wish I would have told you more often how much your friendship meant to me. I hope that you know however that you were a breath of fresh air in my life & I loved you for that.
Kristy, I loved listening to you sing in church. I always wished that you would just be a regular in the sacrament program. Your voice was so beautiful just like you were.
Thank-you for all of the thoughtful things you did for me. Last night I started writing in my journal all of the kind things you did for me, four pages later, and once the clock read 12:30am, I finally had to stop. I know that by the time I finish writing everything down I probably will have written a novel :0). Thank you Kristy, for taking my mom to the airport for me after I had my first baby. Thank-you for bringing over movies for me to watch to pass the time away when I went a week over due with my little girl. I can still picture your face when you said, "You have to promise me you & your mom will watch Pride & Prejudice even though it is really long. It is my favorite! Darcy makes me melt!" Thank-you for stopping by to see me before I moved. That meant so much to me. I am sorry we didn't get to go out to lunch one last time before I moved. Every time I eat chips & fresh salsa I will think of you. Thank you for being so concerned with the trials I had in my life. How I wish that I would have know that you were going through so many trials of your own. That just makes me sad. I honestly cannot picture even one time that I was around you that you didn't have a smile on your face. I too won't forget your distinctive & contagious laugh.
Thank-you for trusting me enough to watch Brandon for you. I loved that little boy. I can still picture him right before you moved walking around my house with a green binky hanging out of his mouth. He went everywhere with that binky. Brandon has grown up so much over the last two years & I see your intensity in his eyes. Carter is such a handsome little boy as well & I know that they always felt so loved by you. You were such an amazing mom that wanted to give the world to your boys if you could.
Kristy I am so sad that you are not going to be here to raise your little boys. How they must miss their mommy. It just doesn't seem right. I know that you cherish those boys so much. Who couldn't love them with all of their heart? We all see you in them so much Kristy. I know that you are in heaven watching over them right now & I hope that they will be able to feel your love for them as they grow & experience life.
Oh Kristy, all I want to do is give you a big hug right now & tell you that I love you & thank-you for touching my life so much. Thank you for loving me for me & for setting such a good example for me in so many ways. I will miss you dear friend & I hope you know you will always have a special & sacred place in my heart.
Thank-you Kristy's parents, for bringing such a beautiful angel to this earth, who touched the lives of so many.
Until we meet again Kristy.
With love,
Shauna Williams
Kristy,
When I first found out the horrible thing that happened to you I dropped to my knees & said "No, not Kristy!" Then the tears began to pour. I thought to myself, how could something like this happen to such a giving & truly Christlike person? I think that it will take me a while to feel peace about the whole thing however I do know that we will see each other again someday. What a joyous time that will be for so many of us that loved you so much.
Kristy I want to thank you from the depths of my heart for reaching out to me & befriending me when I moved to Lehi. You were the first person that really tried to get to know me & invite me to do things so I felt I had a friend. It always amazed me that no matter what the situation was, you were always so aware of other people's needs. You wanted to know everything you could about me & everyone else so that you could help us out. I too wish I would have told you more often how much your friendship meant to me. I hope that you know however that you were a breath of fresh air in my life & I loved you for that.
Kristy, I loved listening to you sing in church. I always wished that you would just be a regular in the sacrament program. Your voice was so beautiful just like you were.
Thank-you for all of the thoughtful things you did for me. Last night I started writing in my journal all of the kind things you did for me, four pages later, and once the clock read 12:30am, I finally had to stop. I know that by the time I finish writing everything down I probably will have written a novel :0). Thank you Kristy, for taking my mom to the airport for me after I had my first baby. Thank-you for bringing over movies for me to watch to pass the time away when I went a week over due with my little girl. I can still picture your face when you said, "You have to promise me you & your mom will watch Pride & Prejudice even though it is really long. It is my favorite! Darcy makes me melt!" Thank-you for stopping by to see me before I moved. That meant so much to me. I am sorry we didn't get to go out to lunch one last time before I moved. Every time I eat chips & fresh salsa I will think of you. Thank you for being so concerned with the trials I had in my life. How I wish that I would have know that you were going through so many trials of your own. That just makes me sad. I honestly cannot picture even one time that I was around you that you didn't have a smile on your face. I too won't forget your distinctive & contagious laugh.
Thank-you for trusting me enough to watch Brandon for you. I loved that little boy. I can still picture him right before you moved walking around my house with a green binky hanging out of his mouth. He went everywhere with that binky. Brandon has grown up so much over the last two years & I see your intensity in his eyes. Carter is such a handsome little boy as well & I know that they always felt so loved by you. You were such an amazing mom that wanted to give the world to your boys if you could.
Kristy I am so sad that you are not going to be here to raise your little boys. How they must miss their mommy. It just doesn't seem right. I know that you cherish those boys so much. Who couldn't love them with all of their heart? We all see you in them so much Kristy. I know that you are in heaven watching over them right now & I hope that they will be able to feel your love for them as they grow & experience life.
Oh Kristy, all I want to do is give you a big hug right now & tell you that I love you & thank-you for touching my life so much. Thank you for loving me for me & for setting such a good example for me in so many ways. I will miss you dear friend & I hope you know you will always have a special & sacred place in my heart.
Thank-you Kristy's parents, for bringing such a beautiful angel to this earth, who touched the lives of so many.
Until we meet again Kristy.
With love,
Shauna Williams
| What a character! I love all the stories and memories on this blog what a tribute. It is definitley helping me, and I'm sure others, deal this traggic loss. I only knew Kristy from church and I taught her son in primary. The more I read about her the more I really wish I could have known her better. My first impression of Kristy was wow! She's a great mother, she knows EVERYONE and very beautiful. Later I learned what an amazing voice! Like may others I was at that church when this horrible event took place. My heart aches for your family. I want you to know how much you are loved. Went the news hit the Relief Society Room the sound of complete devistation was heard. I could actually hear and feel the hearts of so many breaking. You obviously were a dear friend to everyone and you'll be missed. |
For Ann
Although I knew Kristy, this entry is more for Ann. I was Ann's visiting teacher until about four months ago (we moved here to Utah). Because I was so far from my own mother I had kind of adopted Ann as my Washington mother. This worked well for us both because her only daughter was here. Anytime Kristy came into town Ann would call and invite me over to sing and just hang out. I loved it. Everytime I went to visit teach Ann she would spend an hour or two talking about Kristy. I have honestly never met a prouder mother. She loved Kristy so much and anyone who spent any amount of time with her realized it quickly. It has made me want to praise my own children so much more. I think so much of why Kristy turned out to be such an amazing and beautiful person is largely because of you, Ann. I am so sorry for your loss. I loved the times I was able to spend with Kristy. Thank you for introducing us. Especially, thank you for all you were to me during my years in Washington. May you feel peace during this time and know just how much you, Al, Kristy, and all the Palizzi's are loved.
With love, Emily
With love, Emily
The above picture was the "out take". She probably would be so mad if she knew I posted this one. I think it's gorgeous, though.
I took pictures for our Relief Society Directory. And you better believe she wanted me to retake hers twice. She wanted to review to make sure she looked good. I thought after one take we were done. Then, one Sunday, she had gotten a haircut and "had to take another one looking more like a Goddess!" This post is for all those who wanted to see this picture a little bit bigger.
Love,
Sarah
P.S, She was so adament that the bottom picture was "the one", that she told me to delete the first one. I had to find it in my recycle bin and "restore" it!!!
remembering kristy
I read a poem today that reminded me of kristy and wanted to share with everyone. the address is www.dashpoemmovie.com. its very moving and is Kristy and all that she was about.
A few Memories
I was Kristy's neighbor in her old ward-the Jordan Meadows area. The past days have been quite reflective for me. I have started so many posts, but it has been difficult to write words. As I have been thinking about Kristy, many of my memories occur during the summertime; when all the moms and kids were outside playing together. As new neighborhoods go, there were not any fences for quite a while, so we had a great open area for the neighborhood kids to gather and play.
I remember Kristy bringing Brandon over to my backyard to play on the swing set with the other children. Kristy always said that Brandon was a "climber," so he was right in his element! He would climb up the ladder and then have no where to go, he would climb up the slide when everyone else was trying to go down... it makes me smile. Kristy would just smile and help him get turned around the right way and he would continue to do it over and over again. :)
Yes, Brandon kept Kristy on her toes, that is for sure. He liked to run and see how far he could get before his mom captured him, and he would giggle. I remember Kristy taking him for walks around the block in a little red car that had a blue handle on it for easy pushing. She was a great mom and her focus was always on her children.
She would be the first to help someone in need, the first to give a compliment, which were always very sincere. When I received a compliment from Kristy, somehow it really meant something. I have a dress she complimented me in and I will always think of her. She said it was my "power color!" I was quite intimidated by her strong presence, testimony, and her beauty. However, her intentions and words were always meant to be received positively and sincerely.
I have been blessed to have known Kristy, though not very well. I will always feel badly about that. I pray for your family, and especially your boys. I know you will be watching over them, as will those who have been left behind.
Love,
Kim
I remember Kristy bringing Brandon over to my backyard to play on the swing set with the other children. Kristy always said that Brandon was a "climber," so he was right in his element! He would climb up the ladder and then have no where to go, he would climb up the slide when everyone else was trying to go down... it makes me smile. Kristy would just smile and help him get turned around the right way and he would continue to do it over and over again. :)
Yes, Brandon kept Kristy on her toes, that is for sure. He liked to run and see how far he could get before his mom captured him, and he would giggle. I remember Kristy taking him for walks around the block in a little red car that had a blue handle on it for easy pushing. She was a great mom and her focus was always on her children.
She would be the first to help someone in need, the first to give a compliment, which were always very sincere. When I received a compliment from Kristy, somehow it really meant something. I have a dress she complimented me in and I will always think of her. She said it was my "power color!" I was quite intimidated by her strong presence, testimony, and her beauty. However, her intentions and words were always meant to be received positively and sincerely.
I have been blessed to have known Kristy, though not very well. I will always feel badly about that. I pray for your family, and especially your boys. I know you will be watching over them, as will those who have been left behind.
Love,
Kim
Raise your hand if...
you're one of Kristy's boy cousins and you remember this:
"I'm putting on my kiiiiissing liiiiiiips!"
That was one of the first things my husband, Kristy's cousin Dave, ever told me about his go-getter cousin Kristy - that she used to sing "I'm putting on my kissing lips" and chase the boys all over the yard (and it was a pretty good representation too, hehe). Of course, she had plenty of boy cousins to chase but much to my hubby's chagrin, he says he was the only one who "let" her finally land a peck. :-D He was eight, she was five, and the Palizzi's had been visiting all week, and all week Kristy had been trying to catch one of her good-looking cousins. When they were about to leave and Kristy was near tears (all part of the ploy no doubt) he finally let her kiss him on the forehead. And to top it all off, she told everyone about it afterward. Haha! (So Kristy.) He still turns red when you mention it, lol.
Kristy, you little fireball. Don't forget your kissing lips.
love,
Cheryl
Kristy, you little fireball. Don't forget your kissing lips.
love,
Cheryl
road trip
Kristy, since I am sure you already have your own choir of angels put together to sing sweetly to the hearts of all who are left here to finish this part of our journey without you, I have a request. Could you meet me when I get there? Could your choir sing Amazing Grace to the tune of House of the Rising Sun? We should have played more... we should have sung together. What a bummer. But no more should haves for me. When one light goes out, others appear, and among the very many that have sprung up because of your light, I am not going to let any more days pass by when I don't reach out to the people around me. What friends I have made, and friendships rekindled BECAUSE of your passing. The thousands of lights that have sprung up will never match your shine, but you have left behind you such a warm glow of love and new beginnings. I will take care of Erin for you, not as well as you did, surely, but I will be here for her so she can be there for your boys. I see you in her, and I know as they grow older they will too. Meet us in Forks!
Love Alissa
p.s. don't forget to wear your red lipstick so we know it's you!
Love Alissa
p.s. don't forget to wear your red lipstick so we know it's you!
A Gift to the World
We are so saddened and in shock of hearing about Kristy. We can not imagine how her family can deal with such sadness. Our hearts go out to Ann , Al and their family. We are so grateful for the Gospel of Jesus Christ that helps in such difficult times. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Janet & Steve Rumel & family.
Post Script by Steve: The level of “achievement” that a few people in this mortal life attain… is amazing. As an “old guy” I realize that I can not even hope to touch as many lives as Kristy has in her comparably short life. What a gift she has been to the world. I haven’t seen her for 28 years… but what an example she is to me now as the words of those who love her touch my heart… and change my life be reminding me how to love others.
Post Script by Steve: The level of “achievement” that a few people in this mortal life attain… is amazing. As an “old guy” I realize that I can not even hope to touch as many lives as Kristy has in her comparably short life. What a gift she has been to the world. I haven’t seen her for 28 years… but what an example she is to me now as the words of those who love her touch my heart… and change my life be reminding me how to love others.
Take a moment and listen
If you haven't had a chance to just sit and listen to ALL the songs on the blog, may I suggest you take a moment and listen to them all? They are beautiful and each one lends a little bit of Kristy to us all.
A Memorial in Washington
See sidebar for important information on Kristy's memorial in Sumner, Washington.
Good luck today.
Sarah
Good luck today.
Sarah
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
I did not know you, but......
Kristy:
I did not know you, but I can tell you were and are an amazing person!! I live in Lehi and have two small boys as well. You are a very beautiful person. It is amazing how many people loved you and I know that everyone that knew you was grateful to have you in their life some way. I wish I could have had the honor to meet you. Please take care of your little boys.
I did not know you, but I can tell you were and are an amazing person!! I live in Lehi and have two small boys as well. You are a very beautiful person. It is amazing how many people loved you and I know that everyone that knew you was grateful to have you in their life some way. I wish I could have had the honor to meet you. Please take care of your little boys.
Another day past
I realized today that I may have a saved message from Kristy... I picked up my cell phone... I checked my voice mail... quickly sifted through three other saved voicemails hoping the last one was her. It was! Her voice, sultry, comforting, came through asking me stuff about something we had talked about earlier. It was so great to hear her voice and a welcomed surprise. Listened to it a few times.. resaved it. That girl was something.
Something I also remembered today.. how I would sit in Relief Society facing all our beautiful women. I was in the presidency, so I was always facing everyone. Kristy would sit in the front row right in front of me and throughout the meeting she would mouth things to me. She would do this ALL THE TIME. It was hilarious. You'd think after the third time she mouthed something to me and I didn't understand she would stop. But no, she was the "secret society" kind of person. She wanted to get her message across to me. So funny. So this would go on and on. "Do you want to come over for dinner TO- NIGHT?", or "WHAT ARE YOU AND MELANIE LAUGHING A-BOUT?" or "DO I HAVE SOMETHING ON MY FACE?" or the classic, "YOU LOOK SUPER SEXY TODAY WITH YOUR HAIR LIKE THAT!" I mean, you can imagine trying to discern/read lips when someone says something like that when the room is dead quiet.
Anyway, just wanted to ask if anyone knows anything about a memorial service for Kristy in Washington. I have received numerous emails and it would be helpful if any of the family knows this info yet.
Love to all,
Sarah
Something I also remembered today.. how I would sit in Relief Society facing all our beautiful women. I was in the presidency, so I was always facing everyone. Kristy would sit in the front row right in front of me and throughout the meeting she would mouth things to me. She would do this ALL THE TIME. It was hilarious. You'd think after the third time she mouthed something to me and I didn't understand she would stop. But no, she was the "secret society" kind of person. She wanted to get her message across to me. So funny. So this would go on and on. "Do you want to come over for dinner TO- NIGHT?", or "WHAT ARE YOU AND MELANIE LAUGHING A-BOUT?" or "DO I HAVE SOMETHING ON MY FACE?" or the classic, "YOU LOOK SUPER SEXY TODAY WITH YOUR HAIR LIKE THAT!" I mean, you can imagine trying to discern/read lips when someone says something like that when the room is dead quiet.
Anyway, just wanted to ask if anyone knows anything about a memorial service for Kristy in Washington. I have received numerous emails and it would be helpful if any of the family knows this info yet.
Love to all,
Sarah
Sweet Memories
I have those great times in life that I store away as treasure in my heart and memory, Two of those was with Kristy. I flew out of Alaska and spent a few days with Aunt Ann and Uncle Al in 1984, I was on my way to the MTC for my mission. While I was at their house Kristy want to go on a (date :)) . So I took her to dinner and a movie. We had so much fun, she was 6 years old and she was so full of life! It was one of the best dates I ever had. What touched my heart even more was when I flew from their house to Grandmas house she had to call me because she missed me already! Even at 6 years old she had great love and could make someone feel loved! I thank you Kristy for those memories. I will cherish it always. I remember the saddest day of my life and that was my little girls funeral. You touched my heart that day when you sang “Fly Away Little Angel” your voice was as if you were an Angel and now you are an Angel! Please give my little girl a hug for me! I love you Kisty! Love your Cuz, Shayne
My prayers are with you all
I live in my own world sometimes, so I just found out. (its Wednesday)! I meet Kristy and her family when she was a young teenager. She was so full of life and lived life to the fullest. I am in shock today but know in my heart as horrible as this is, she must have been needed on the other side. My prayers and thoughts will be with her family at this time. All my love Kelli (Young) Hanis
I knew Kristy when i was a girl. I just wanted to share a few stories with you. Some memories I prize to have had with her. I remember going to Enchanted Village with Kristy and going on the squirrel cages. It always looked like so much fun going around and around upside down and all. But I never had the strength to do it! Until i went with Kristy. She not only could get the squirrel cages to go around but she could also hit the breaks and make us hang up-side down, and stay there!! Only when the ride had ended and the ride attendant came by would he release the break and we would be right-side up again. She never cared about boys when we would walk over to Wild Waves....(us two with our t-shirts over our swimsuits)....unlike my other friends. She was there with ME. WE were there together and had the time of our lives playing and getting sun burned. I have always been so awkward in my own body and voice.. I remember being at her home and her mom on the piano and Kristy coachin g me to sing! I sing like a goat so to have her trying so hard and for so long i finally gave in and sang the highest note i could. Her mother and her stopped and looked at me. I could sing higher the the highest note on the piano she had said. But they ended with that so i can only take it as it really just wasn't very good. Kristy was the first person to put make-up on me. I went to her house after church and went up to her room. She had eye shadow! wow! I wanted some. So she chose from all of her many 'nuetral' shadows a glamorous yellow for my lids. I walked around the rest of the afternoon feeling so cool. I also can remember eating her mothers mint plants on the side of their home. Seems silly but i haven't spoken to or heard her in over 3-4 years but i can still hear her laugh and her snort. She was one who had a contagious laughter. Still makes me smile. She is one of those friends that made certain summers the best because they were there. She is a friend that even though she was gone to Utah everytime I took my kids to play at the park by her folks house. I thought of the times i had been there playing as a child. I drive by the light going to her parents and my thoughts would often wander to her. What she was up to. I miss her. I loved her. I wish we all could have her back. I pray that her boys will know her. Like I once did. She may have turned 30 but she looks just like she does in my childhood memories. Thank you Kristi.marcia
I never told her, but she always impressed me
I am a long time friend of the Palizzi family from Puyallup, Washington. Kristy was 10 years younger than me, almost to the day. When she became a teanager I was so impressed with her drive and determination. I always admired her for serving a mission and for her dedication to the Lord. She always seemed to know what she wanted from life, even at a young age. She had an impact on my life and because of her example I wanted to be more like her. She is wonderful.
Al and Ann our family is thinking of you and praying for you.
Jeff & Jody Davison (Anderson)
Puyallup, Washington
Al and Ann our family is thinking of you and praying for you.
Jeff & Jody Davison (Anderson)
Puyallup, Washington
My best friend
What do you say when you lose a best friend .... it's really hard for me to think about. Kristy sang at my wedding, and she and I sang together so many times that I can't fathom not being able to sing with her again in this life.
What I do know is, that she is one of the best people I know .... we were kindred spirits. I will never forget how when we sang together, we knew what the other would do without even looking at each other .... She definitely brought out the best in me.
We drove to work together everyday, ate lunch together everyday, after work went shopping together, or running together ... or just sat around together. We just had so much fun together. We would sit on her soft bed and laugh and laugh and laugh .... or re-enact SNL skits .... we would laugh for hours. With Kristy I could completely be free to be myself. .... Kristy was like my sister.
If it wasn't for Kristy, I wouldn't have married Matt (he was extremely shy at the time ... she prodded him), so I have her to thank for my blessed life.
I am not sad for Kristy, because I believe Heavenly Father needs her up there to spread the word ... something I am positive she will do better than anyone I know. Kristy had a big personality and touched everyone she knew.
I will miss her so much ... I love her so much. I am glad I knew her here in this life and look forward to seeing her again. And I will always call her my best friend.
Kristy was just the best. She will be missed and will always be remembered.
My love forever, Honor
What I do know is, that she is one of the best people I know .... we were kindred spirits. I will never forget how when we sang together, we knew what the other would do without even looking at each other .... She definitely brought out the best in me.
We drove to work together everyday, ate lunch together everyday, after work went shopping together, or running together ... or just sat around together. We just had so much fun together. We would sit on her soft bed and laugh and laugh and laugh .... or re-enact SNL skits .... we would laugh for hours. With Kristy I could completely be free to be myself. .... Kristy was like my sister.
If it wasn't for Kristy, I wouldn't have married Matt (he was extremely shy at the time ... she prodded him), so I have her to thank for my blessed life.
I am not sad for Kristy, because I believe Heavenly Father needs her up there to spread the word ... something I am positive she will do better than anyone I know. Kristy had a big personality and touched everyone she knew.
I will miss her so much ... I love her so much. I am glad I knew her here in this life and look forward to seeing her again. And I will always call her my best friend.
Kristy was just the best. She will be missed and will always be remembered.
My love forever, Honor
There is a strong tug at my heart telling me I must share more. I truly believe if Kristy could speak to us right now she would say please "Forgive Dave". I know beyond the shadow of any doubt that she has only love and compassion in her heart and she would want us to hate the crime but love the child of God. And yes that is hard, but remember Christ on the cross saying "Forgive them for they know not what they do". He set the first example for us and Kristy would do no less. She is serving with all her passion, love and excitement on the other side now, letting others have the chance to feel the joy of a wild and crazy incredible person that we came to love and cherish too! Our memories of her will stay in our hearts forever, and some day she will greet us and I look forward to that day and that big beautiful smile! I know she has total trust that the Lord has placed her dear sweet boys in the hands of the family she loves and trusts. I am confident she feels honored to have them step in with compassion and love and the extra needs her boys have at this time. I know that they will love those boys to the intensity that Kristy did. I know they will learn how GREAT their mother was and that alone will empower them to be like her, to touch the world like she did. She would say, I am at peace with my Father's plan and NOW I SEE THE BIGGER PICTURE!
I want to share a story with you about an amazing man I met two years ago - Azim Khamisa. He wrote the book "From Murder to Forgiveness" which is one of the most incredible acts of love I have ever seen. His 20 year old son was shot and killed by a 14 year old gang member while he was out delivering pizza one night. Azim's story is one that reading right now might bring much comfort to your heart at this time. Instead of hatred in his heart for the person who killed his son, he was filled with forgiveness and grew to love that boy and his family. After all that family also lost their son that day. Their son became the first 14 year old in California to be tried as an adult and put in jail for life. Akim set up a foundation to stop crime of this nature at the elementary school level, where it could still make a difference. This work is his passion now, and he does this work with the family of the son who committed the crime (wow) and is now trying to get the son out of jail to help him serve this mission of stopping violent crime with him (what love). It is an amazing heart warming flip of turning hatred into love. Kristy would feel and be the same way, so let me speak for her. Love, forgive… not hate. Isn’t it amazing, even with Kristy gone, how she is still touching hearts on this side - just look at the blogs from people who did not know her? And Kristy’s story can be the one to change the law. To put a new law in place requiring that guns be taken away from someone served a protection order threatening to use one. If it could save even one person, that would be incredible. We should plant that seed and make it grow. And in the bigger picture, for those who are not members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, call the church and have the missionaries teach you what our church believes in, there is no obligation and you will actually enjoy the lessons. When I did, I was shocked to find out the truth compared to the lies I was told about the church. For the first time in my life I knew who I was, where I came from and where I was going. It was life changing.. If you take the time to do so, than you can begin to know why Kristy was so full of love and passion and life! Why she served a mission for 18 months. Trust me she was so beautiful, incredible, and had lots of guys that wanted to marry her and not let her leave for 18 months to serve a mission, but Kristy always saw the bigger picture. This can plant a seed in your heart to have that love and passion that Kristy had, and then you can be her vessel to give it back to others around you. Sometime I will share with you my story about joining the church and how Kristy was so inspired by it she carried my letter with her throughout her mission. It is a painful story, so I will save it for another time. I want to leave with you the words Paul H. Dunn wrote to me in his book "The Birth that we Call Death, when my son died many years ago of sudden infant death syndrome. I will change the name, but the message still rings true “I testify to you that indeed Kristy does live" and she is not done changing the hearts of many here, she wants to make a difference in your life – letting her in has truly changed my life forever.
Darlene
I want to share a story with you about an amazing man I met two years ago - Azim Khamisa. He wrote the book "From Murder to Forgiveness" which is one of the most incredible acts of love I have ever seen. His 20 year old son was shot and killed by a 14 year old gang member while he was out delivering pizza one night. Azim's story is one that reading right now might bring much comfort to your heart at this time. Instead of hatred in his heart for the person who killed his son, he was filled with forgiveness and grew to love that boy and his family. After all that family also lost their son that day. Their son became the first 14 year old in California to be tried as an adult and put in jail for life. Akim set up a foundation to stop crime of this nature at the elementary school level, where it could still make a difference. This work is his passion now, and he does this work with the family of the son who committed the crime (wow) and is now trying to get the son out of jail to help him serve this mission of stopping violent crime with him (what love). It is an amazing heart warming flip of turning hatred into love. Kristy would feel and be the same way, so let me speak for her. Love, forgive… not hate. Isn’t it amazing, even with Kristy gone, how she is still touching hearts on this side - just look at the blogs from people who did not know her? And Kristy’s story can be the one to change the law. To put a new law in place requiring that guns be taken away from someone served a protection order threatening to use one. If it could save even one person, that would be incredible. We should plant that seed and make it grow. And in the bigger picture, for those who are not members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, call the church and have the missionaries teach you what our church believes in, there is no obligation and you will actually enjoy the lessons. When I did, I was shocked to find out the truth compared to the lies I was told about the church. For the first time in my life I knew who I was, where I came from and where I was going. It was life changing.. If you take the time to do so, than you can begin to know why Kristy was so full of love and passion and life! Why she served a mission for 18 months. Trust me she was so beautiful, incredible, and had lots of guys that wanted to marry her and not let her leave for 18 months to serve a mission, but Kristy always saw the bigger picture. This can plant a seed in your heart to have that love and passion that Kristy had, and then you can be her vessel to give it back to others around you. Sometime I will share with you my story about joining the church and how Kristy was so inspired by it she carried my letter with her throughout her mission. It is a painful story, so I will save it for another time. I want to leave with you the words Paul H. Dunn wrote to me in his book "The Birth that we Call Death, when my son died many years ago of sudden infant death syndrome. I will change the name, but the message still rings true “I testify to you that indeed Kristy does live" and she is not done changing the hearts of many here, she wants to make a difference in your life – letting her in has truly changed my life forever.
Darlene
To the Palizzis
Dear Palizzi Family,
This is Stacy's brother-in-law, Cameron. The void in my soul the last few days has been pronounced, and I cannot imagine your thoughts and physical and emotional feelings. So badly, I want to hate Dave for his recent rage and unthoughtful, selfish actions. I met Kristy and Dave on a few short occasions, and I can echo the great and many tributes to Kristy that are showing up on this blog. To me she seems to be an exemplary woman who is kind and beautiful and deserving of such great things. She is fortunate to have so many freinds and family members who share her pain and honor her life. I am trully saddened for her boys who must really miss their lovely mommy. I know a song with lyrics that Kristy might say if she was able:
Soon a (mom) will kneel to pray
Soon the light will burn our shade
And with the sweet the bitter fades
So take my heart and take your place
Cause I will be your force
And I will be your right
And I will watch over you like a satellite
Soon reason will have rhyme
Soon wisdom will imply
And with courage doubt subsides
So take my heart and take my pride
And I will be your side
And I will be your might
And I will watch over you like a satellite
River will flow from scenes unknown
I'll guide you through by the love I'll show
And the stars will wish upon the night
That they could have a guiding satellite.
I want so much to do something for all of you, and yet I know I can't do the impossible. My family and I will do what we can, as inadequate as it feels, especially for you T and S. We have your whole family in our thoughts and prayers.
This is Stacy's brother-in-law, Cameron. The void in my soul the last few days has been pronounced, and I cannot imagine your thoughts and physical and emotional feelings. So badly, I want to hate Dave for his recent rage and unthoughtful, selfish actions. I met Kristy and Dave on a few short occasions, and I can echo the great and many tributes to Kristy that are showing up on this blog. To me she seems to be an exemplary woman who is kind and beautiful and deserving of such great things. She is fortunate to have so many freinds and family members who share her pain and honor her life. I am trully saddened for her boys who must really miss their lovely mommy. I know a song with lyrics that Kristy might say if she was able:
Soon a (mom) will kneel to pray
Soon the light will burn our shade
And with the sweet the bitter fades
So take my heart and take your place
Cause I will be your force
And I will be your right
And I will watch over you like a satellite
Soon reason will have rhyme
Soon wisdom will imply
And with courage doubt subsides
So take my heart and take my pride
And I will be your side
And I will be your might
And I will watch over you like a satellite
River will flow from scenes unknown
I'll guide you through by the love I'll show
And the stars will wish upon the night
That they could have a guiding satellite.
I want so much to do something for all of you, and yet I know I can't do the impossible. My family and I will do what we can, as inadequate as it feels, especially for you T and S. We have your whole family in our thoughts and prayers.
Humbling letter I received through email:
I worked for Kristy and her family for almost 2 years, I used to clean her house, she was one of the first people that gave a job in her house to me and her family. I remember the first day that I left a flyer on her front door. And hour later she called me and since I didn't speak english very well so we didn't understand each other really good, she told me to just go to her house and so I went that when I met her.
Since that first day I began to work with her and she help me so so much. She recommended me to the whole neighborhood, she would call her friends and would say oh you have to meet her, because she want to help me and she always tell them nice things about me and she knew that I had just gone trough divorce, she help e so so much. thanks to her, I remember when she told me " ana I will never leave you, ever you will be working with me forever," no matter how you clean my house hahaha and also I remember that day 28th of january that was friday she took out a bunch of clothes from her closet and she wanted me to have that clothes it was a denim skirt that she gave me and she told me it was her favorite, and i was so happy and I promise to her wear in new year evening, so the next friday on the 4th of january before I left she embraced me in a hug so strong and said " Ana I love you thanks for every thing" and I'll see you friday, but that friday it wont be the same for me, I'm gonna miss you so much that my fridays wont ever be the same because you good to me you never treated me like your housekeeper, you always made me feel like your friend and it made me really sad to not have more time to talk with you.
I love you kristy, you and your beautiful little boys. you know how much I love them. I have so many things I could tell that it would never end. I'll never never forget you. I know we will see each other again. I'm gonna miss you so much. God bless your family. Good bye Brandon and Carter I don't know when I will see you again and Brandon I will miss your animal sounds you always made it for me. when you play with your daddy's belt and you said Ana I am a snake are you scared?? and yes you liked to make me scared.
I love you forever
Ana Garcia
I worked for Kristy and her family for almost 2 years, I used to clean her house, she was one of the first people that gave a job in her house to me and her family. I remember the first day that I left a flyer on her front door. And hour later she called me and since I didn't speak english very well so we didn't understand each other really good, she told me to just go to her house and so I went that when I met her.
Since that first day I began to work with her and she help me so so much. She recommended me to the whole neighborhood, she would call her friends and would say oh you have to meet her, because she want to help me and she always tell them nice things about me and she knew that I had just gone trough divorce, she help e so so much. thanks to her, I remember when she told me " ana I will never leave you, ever you will be working with me forever," no matter how you clean my house hahaha and also I remember that day 28th of january that was friday she took out a bunch of clothes from her closet and she wanted me to have that clothes it was a denim skirt that she gave me and she told me it was her favorite, and i was so happy and I promise to her wear in new year evening, so the next friday on the 4th of january before I left she embraced me in a hug so strong and said " Ana I love you thanks for every thing" and I'll see you friday, but that friday it wont be the same for me, I'm gonna miss you so much that my fridays wont ever be the same because you good to me you never treated me like your housekeeper, you always made me feel like your friend and it made me really sad to not have more time to talk with you.
I love you kristy, you and your beautiful little boys. you know how much I love them. I have so many things I could tell that it would never end. I'll never never forget you. I know we will see each other again. I'm gonna miss you so much. God bless your family. Good bye Brandon and Carter I don't know when I will see you again and Brandon I will miss your animal sounds you always made it for me. when you play with your daddy's belt and you said Ana I am a snake are you scared?? and yes you liked to make me scared.
I love you forever
Ana Garcia
Quotes of Comfort
"Our Heavenly Father knows
the rest of the story...."
"A life watered by tears of tragedy and suffering often becomes the most fertile soil for spiritual growth."
"At times of the death of a loved one we must seek to find a strength as great as our sadness."
"The pain doesn't go away, It just gets "padded" by the love of family and people that care."–Virginia Upton
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal." Chase Johnson
"All your losses will be made up to you in the resurrection, provided you continue faithful. By the vision of the Almighty I have seen it."Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, 296
"They say time heals all wounds. I don't know whether or not that is true, but I do know there is a Comforter. "Eric P. Shields, "All Your Losses"Ensign March 2005, 71
"Grief is a journey–not an event. Grief comes in waves. Don't ignore them. No one has ever stopped one. They just keep coming. Work with the waves big and small as they come. Let the waves become a propellent in your life. Learn to ride them or float through them. Hang onto one another. Hang onto God. He will be there with you through the waves. There is no way of knowing how big they will be or how often they will come. They will keep coming. Swim into them–not away from them. Learn to float through them." Pastor Dean Jackson Services for Joe Zeller, January 10, 2006
"Death is not a period but a comma in the story of life." Elder Carlos E. Asay, Ensign May 1994
"I'm grateful to know that this part of our life, is just part of our life, and that we have so much more to look forward to."
Lael Henderson, February 27, 2006
"Remember that you have already been apart the longest that you will ever be apart. Each day now, you are one day closer to being back together again." --Lael Henderson, November 1991
Finding purpose...
Hi Kristy, I'm in the "other" ward and didn't know you well but have seen the love others had for you many times over. A person close to me witnessed your passing and has remarked that you had the face of an angel and seemed completely at peace, even at a time of tragedy. In spite of this horrible event I have observed an incredible outpouring of love and support. I have felt the prayers from people everywhere bless this neighborhood.
When I begin to feel sad and question "why" I turn it around and say a prayer for your dear boys and family, and instantly feel more peaceful. I know Heavenly Father watches over us always, and even as a bystander my testimony has been strengthened. Even if it seems no other good came from this, please know that at least my family's lives have changed for the best. I cannot express fully how thankful I am for this.
Thank you Kristy for your influence and love. I hope I can know you better in the next life, but for now I am forever grateful for your example.
Carpe Diem! ---A loving neighbor
When I begin to feel sad and question "why" I turn it around and say a prayer for your dear boys and family, and instantly feel more peaceful. I know Heavenly Father watches over us always, and even as a bystander my testimony has been strengthened. Even if it seems no other good came from this, please know that at least my family's lives have changed for the best. I cannot express fully how thankful I am for this.
Thank you Kristy for your influence and love. I hope I can know you better in the next life, but for now I am forever grateful for your example.
Carpe Diem! ---A loving neighbor
Life Long Family Friend
I have known the palizzi family since Ann was my miamaid advisor and before. I have babysat kristy and have known her as a friend as adults. I have a very energetic 6 year old son and Ann has always said to me ever since Sam was very small, and I quote, "If I can survive Kristy's childhood...you can survive Sam's. If sam grows up to be half the man that Kristy was a woman I will be very proud. Kristy was larger than life. She never held back on anything that was on her mind and that is what made her so great to be around. She always had the courage to say what others were thinking but didn't have the courage to say. Her mom Ann is a good friend of mine and she has shared so many stories about Kristy to me that just makes me laugh when I think about it. a few like when in first or second grade Kristy was helping a little girl in her class that had learning dissabilities and the teacher told Kristy to do her own work. Kristy told her that she was helping the little girl and if the teacher was doing the job the state was paying her to do she wouldn't have to help her. or the time Kristy decided to climb scafolding in the Gym at the stake center during stake conference and twirl on the bars 20 feet in the air while Al was supposed to be watching her while Ann was out feeding Barry who was then the baby. I remember that one. Kristy refused to come down and Al had to climb up to get her. I think she was around 4 yrs old.
I always loved when she would come to washington to visit and would sing in our ward. She had a voice like an angel. Years ago we were in a musical together that our stake had put on called Greater than us all. She was always in the midst of everything. But most of all. I will miss the impact she had on all who knew her. They say that after we leave this life we will get to see every life we touched while on the earth. I think even Kristy would be amazed at how many and how profoundly she touch lives for good here on earth in her short 30 years.
My heart aches for Ann and Al and her brothers and those two sweet little boys who will grow up without their mom, and also for Dave's family. I know that our loving Heavenly Father is watching over them all and will continue to do so until they can heal from this awful tragedy. I love you Kristy and will miss you. My family contiues to pray for your family. You will leave a big hole in our lives. Judy
I always loved when she would come to washington to visit and would sing in our ward. She had a voice like an angel. Years ago we were in a musical together that our stake had put on called Greater than us all. She was always in the midst of everything. But most of all. I will miss the impact she had on all who knew her. They say that after we leave this life we will get to see every life we touched while on the earth. I think even Kristy would be amazed at how many and how profoundly she touch lives for good here on earth in her short 30 years.
My heart aches for Ann and Al and her brothers and those two sweet little boys who will grow up without their mom, and also for Dave's family. I know that our loving Heavenly Father is watching over them all and will continue to do so until they can heal from this awful tragedy. I love you Kristy and will miss you. My family contiues to pray for your family. You will leave a big hole in our lives. Judy
BLOG FOR THE CHILDREN...
I wanted to give the info for a blog i have set up for Kristy's little boys on this blog.
so people can share with them their mother's life and that the memory of their mother will be with them and kept alive forever and their mother will always be with them.
the blog address is: http://ragsdalechildren.blogspot.com/
the email address is: brandonandcarterragsdale@gmail.com
and the password is: carbranra (for Carter and Brandon Ragsdale) if for any reason you can't get into the blog please email me at the email address that has been set up and i will post whatever you would like me to post.
so people can share with them their mother's life and that the memory of their mother will be with them and kept alive forever and their mother will always be with them.
the blog address is: http://ragsdalechildren.blogspot.com/
the email address is: brandonandcarterragsdale@gmail.com
and the password is: carbranra (for Carter and Brandon Ragsdale) if for any reason you can't get into the blog please email me at the email address that has been set up and i will post whatever you would like me to post.
Kristy had befriended a few girls in the ward that babysat for her. She was a great friend to each of them. Madi thinks of her as the big sister she doesn't have. Kristy made them feel welcome and wanted each of them to become the best person they could. I am grateful my daughter had the opportunity to know and love her. Madi shares Kristy love of music, they were going to start voice lessons this week. Thanks Kristy for showing Madi unconditional love.
Erin Mordecai
BLOG FOR KRISTY'S CHILDREN...
I also wanted to add this post to give info. on the Blog i set up for Kristy's children. And wanted to post on this wonderful blog that has been created for Kristy..
the information for Carter and Brandon's blog is as follows:
the address is: http://ragsdalechildren.blogspot.com/
and if you would like to submit posts to their blog the sign in info and email address is: brandonandcarterragsdale@gmail.com
with the password of: Carbranra (for carter and brandon ragsdale) passwords are case sensitive for please type it as it is shown. and if you can't log into the blog for whatever reason. Please email me at the email address that was set up and i will post anything you want for you.
SORRY IF this is a duplicate!!!
the information for Carter and Brandon's blog is as follows:
the address is: http://ragsdalechildren.blogspot.com/
and if you would like to submit posts to their blog the sign in info and email address is: brandonandcarterragsdale@gmail.com
with the password of: Carbranra (for carter and brandon ragsdale) passwords are case sensitive for please type it as it is shown. and if you can't log into the blog for whatever reason. Please email me at the email address that was set up and i will post anything you want for you.
SORRY IF this is a duplicate!!!
My heart goes out to Kristy's Mom, Family and Friends. I wish there was something that I could say or do to ease the pain that you are going thought at this time. Please take comfort that she is with you. Her Father-in Heaven has welcomed her home with open arms.
To Kristy's Mom, You are in my prayers and my heart aches for you. I wish I could take the pain away from you.
I do know what you are going though at this time, for I lost my daughter 4 months ago. She was 28 and had been abused by her own father. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't cry and wish with all my heart that I could of done something to have stopped this tragedy.
At this time I give you a big hug from someone that knows your pain. I pray that your Heavenly Father will comfort you and ease your pain alittle. Please give your 2 Grandsons a big hug and kiss. And thank you for just listening to a mother that knows your pain.
J
To Kristy's Mom, You are in my prayers and my heart aches for you. I wish I could take the pain away from you.
I do know what you are going though at this time, for I lost my daughter 4 months ago. She was 28 and had been abused by her own father. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't cry and wish with all my heart that I could of done something to have stopped this tragedy.
At this time I give you a big hug from someone that knows your pain. I pray that your Heavenly Father will comfort you and ease your pain alittle. Please give your 2 Grandsons a big hug and kiss. And thank you for just listening to a mother that knows your pain.
J
What an outstanding voice, and what a great friend
My friend Jeff served his mission in Tacoma. He served in the Bellevue area and got to know the Palizzi family. The Christmas after we returned home, Darren, Jeff, Phil, and I went up to WA to sing at a fireside with Kristi (and I think it was Becky, but I can't remember too well; back in 1997 and all). She picked up Darren and me at the Sea/Tac airport. She drove down the freeway at, well I don't want to incriminate her memory, but it was pretty fast, and in the Washington rain. I was sure we were going to wreck. Right then I knew that Kristi was one of those people who was going to make her mark! When I first heard her sing, WOW what a voice and she could do it all! Jazz, contemporary, choral, any style she wanted.
And during the short time I knew her, I knew she had a heart to match her voice. She was always looking to cheer you up when you were down. She could always make you feel included in a group no matter how awkward you felt.
Was that church we sang at on Hilltop? It has the cultrual hall open up from the chapel on the side...she and Becky (I think) sang several duets at that fireside. They were wonderful. They brought the Spirit so strong. There were very few dry eyes that night. I hope that we can sing in the spirit world, because I think that she would want that.
To the Palizzis, we offer our gratitude for having raised such a wonderful person, and to everyone touched by Kristy and her life, our prayers are that the peace of Christ and the knowledge of His eternal plan may give hope and strength to us as we continue our paths without her direct presence here, knowing that again we will reunite with her before the journey's end.
Thanks Kristy for giving me what I needed right when I needed it!
Kent Hyer
P.S. I hope that Jeff, Darren, and Phil get to sign this, but if they don't, I know that they would offer the same!!
And during the short time I knew her, I knew she had a heart to match her voice. She was always looking to cheer you up when you were down. She could always make you feel included in a group no matter how awkward you felt.
Was that church we sang at on Hilltop? It has the cultrual hall open up from the chapel on the side...she and Becky (I think) sang several duets at that fireside. They were wonderful. They brought the Spirit so strong. There were very few dry eyes that night. I hope that we can sing in the spirit world, because I think that she would want that.
To the Palizzis, we offer our gratitude for having raised such a wonderful person, and to everyone touched by Kristy and her life, our prayers are that the peace of Christ and the knowledge of His eternal plan may give hope and strength to us as we continue our paths without her direct presence here, knowing that again we will reunite with her before the journey's end.
Thanks Kristy for giving me what I needed right when I needed it!
Kent Hyer
P.S. I hope that Jeff, Darren, and Phil get to sign this, but if they don't, I know that they would offer the same!!
In Kristy's Honor
To all those who knew and loved and are mourning Kristy, I am so sorry for your loss. I mourn with you. This tragedy has reached the hearts of so many. I have been unable to sleep the past several nights and have thought about this a lot. What can we collectively do?
In honor of this beautiful young woman, let’s start taking steps to really “protect” victims of domestic violence. Perhaps we could start to petition a law to be enacted (Kristy’s Law) that when a restraining / protective order is filed (another 50,000 will be filed in the United States this month), especially after being threatened by a spouse to use a weapon to harm them, that access to firearms (the one weapon that can be used on a victim from a distance) to the person making the threat be taken away. The right to bear arms should be taken away if that person threatens the safety of another.
According to the Women’s Commission for Domestic Violence Services: 1/3 to 1/2 of all women in the United States will be assaulted by their intimate partner at some time in their life.
Many battered women leave their abusers permanently, and despite many obstacles, succeed in building a life free of violence. Almost all battered women leave at least once. The perpetrator dramatically escalates his violence and coercive tactics when she leaves (or tries to).
• 50 to 75% of all homeless women and children are fleeing domestic violence.
• A woman is at a 75% greater risk of being killed or injured when attempting to leave.
• Every month, more than 50,000 women in the United States seek a restraining / protective order.
• There are 3 times more animal shelters than safe houses for victims in this Country.
What are the predictors of domestic violence?
Risk Factors for Femicide, (a study conducted to determine the predictors of domestic violence with families of 220 female victims of intimate-partner homicide from eleven cities across the country, as well as a control group of 343 women who reported being the victims of physical abuse in a two year period) found the following:
Access to firearms increased the risk of intimate partner homicide more than five times more than in instances where there were no weapons, according to Risk Factors for Femicide. The findings also "suggest" that abusers who possess guns "tend to inflict the most severe abuse."
Separating from an abusive partner after having lived with him, leaving the home she shares with an abusive partner or asking her abusive partner to leave the home they share were all factors that put a woman at "higher risk" of becoming a victim of homicide.
An abuser's behavior also is a factor is predicting homicide. The risk of homicide "was increased nine-fold by the combination of a highly controlling abuser and the couple's separation after living together," finds Risk Factors for Femicide. An abuser's threats with a weapon or threats to kill his victim also "were associated with substantially higher risks" for her murder.
The article states: Steps such as increasing shelter services for battered women, increasing employment opportunities, and restricting abusers' access to guns can potentially reduce intimate partner homicide.
(American Journal of Public Health (July 2003, Vol. 93, No. 7)
Sincere wishes for comfort and change,
Holly McAllister
In honor of this beautiful young woman, let’s start taking steps to really “protect” victims of domestic violence. Perhaps we could start to petition a law to be enacted (Kristy’s Law) that when a restraining / protective order is filed (another 50,000 will be filed in the United States this month), especially after being threatened by a spouse to use a weapon to harm them, that access to firearms (the one weapon that can be used on a victim from a distance) to the person making the threat be taken away. The right to bear arms should be taken away if that person threatens the safety of another.
According to the Women’s Commission for Domestic Violence Services: 1/3 to 1/2 of all women in the United States will be assaulted by their intimate partner at some time in their life.
Many battered women leave their abusers permanently, and despite many obstacles, succeed in building a life free of violence. Almost all battered women leave at least once. The perpetrator dramatically escalates his violence and coercive tactics when she leaves (or tries to).
• 50 to 75% of all homeless women and children are fleeing domestic violence.
• A woman is at a 75% greater risk of being killed or injured when attempting to leave.
• Every month, more than 50,000 women in the United States seek a restraining / protective order.
• There are 3 times more animal shelters than safe houses for victims in this Country.
What are the predictors of domestic violence?
Risk Factors for Femicide, (a study conducted to determine the predictors of domestic violence with families of 220 female victims of intimate-partner homicide from eleven cities across the country, as well as a control group of 343 women who reported being the victims of physical abuse in a two year period) found the following:
Access to firearms increased the risk of intimate partner homicide more than five times more than in instances where there were no weapons, according to Risk Factors for Femicide. The findings also "suggest" that abusers who possess guns "tend to inflict the most severe abuse."
Separating from an abusive partner after having lived with him, leaving the home she shares with an abusive partner or asking her abusive partner to leave the home they share were all factors that put a woman at "higher risk" of becoming a victim of homicide.
An abuser's behavior also is a factor is predicting homicide. The risk of homicide "was increased nine-fold by the combination of a highly controlling abuser and the couple's separation after living together," finds Risk Factors for Femicide. An abuser's threats with a weapon or threats to kill his victim also "were associated with substantially higher risks" for her murder.
The article states: Steps such as increasing shelter services for battered women, increasing employment opportunities, and restricting abusers' access to guns can potentially reduce intimate partner homicide.
(American Journal of Public Health (July 2003, Vol. 93, No. 7)
Sincere wishes for comfort and change,
Holly McAllister
As I spend my third sleepless night in contemplation and prayer, my heart is filled with gratitude that Kristy and I were chosen to cross paths in this life! I thought that maybe since I'm typing at four o'clock in the morning the tears would not come, but how can they not?
On Sunday, as the news traveled through the Jordan Meadows Ward neighborhood, I recall one of my first thoughts was a quick prayer that her new ward family had been taking care of her. I felt such anguish knowing that I was ignorant to her current turmoil and pain and that I was no longer an active presence in her life. I needn't have been concerned. How fantastic you all are and I praise all you have done and the strength you gave her in her time of need.
Over the past three days, a quote from President Kimball has often come to my mind: "God does notice us, and he watches over us. But it is usually through another person that he meets our needs." Kristy singlehandedly knew and accomplished more in her short 30 years here than most of us are still trying to learn and achieve over the entire course of our lives.
I've often reflected on a memory dear to my heart. On one Sunday approximately four years ago, I was sitting in front of my fellow sisters as a member of the Relief Society Presidency. For some reason that has long escaped me, I sat facing them unable to control my tears. I remember thinking, here I am, falling apart, and not one person is noticing. Until Kristy. A note made its way to my hands, lending support and encouragement with a gentle reminder that I was not alone and that I mattered.
How I have praised the heavens that someone as her influenced my life for the better! What a privilege and honor it has been to touched by her soul in this life.
Kristy, thank you for making such a difference in my life and the lives of others! I continue to pray I have the commitment to carry on what you taught me during the brief time our paths crossed by touching others lives for good without recognition or recompense.
With Love,
Vickie Brown
On Sunday, as the news traveled through the Jordan Meadows Ward neighborhood, I recall one of my first thoughts was a quick prayer that her new ward family had been taking care of her. I felt such anguish knowing that I was ignorant to her current turmoil and pain and that I was no longer an active presence in her life. I needn't have been concerned. How fantastic you all are and I praise all you have done and the strength you gave her in her time of need.
Over the past three days, a quote from President Kimball has often come to my mind: "God does notice us, and he watches over us. But it is usually through another person that he meets our needs." Kristy singlehandedly knew and accomplished more in her short 30 years here than most of us are still trying to learn and achieve over the entire course of our lives.
I've often reflected on a memory dear to my heart. On one Sunday approximately four years ago, I was sitting in front of my fellow sisters as a member of the Relief Society Presidency. For some reason that has long escaped me, I sat facing them unable to control my tears. I remember thinking, here I am, falling apart, and not one person is noticing. Until Kristy. A note made its way to my hands, lending support and encouragement with a gentle reminder that I was not alone and that I mattered.
How I have praised the heavens that someone as her influenced my life for the better! What a privilege and honor it has been to touched by her soul in this life.
Kristy, thank you for making such a difference in my life and the lives of others! I continue to pray I have the commitment to carry on what you taught me during the brief time our paths crossed by touching others lives for good without recognition or recompense.
With Love,
Vickie Brown
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
I am so sorry for any one to edure a loss of a loved one
I didn't not no her, but my heart aches for the ones that are left behind. God only cries for the living, our son died 89 day after returning home from his lds mission. he was in the usu van rollover that killed 9. we played a song at his funeral that meant alot it thought i would share it with ya. it is by Cameron Steele in less than an hour. on his face to face album.
http://cdbaby.com/cd/csteele2 and you can listen to it. please send my condolacne to the family and Friends. it is a ache that is always there in your heart a true heart ache. thanks you for letting me going on .
His time table is not our own time table, it is different than ours, we have a glimpse in that in the book of Peter. where it says but beloved be not ignorant of this one thing that one day to the lords is 1,000 years. and a thousand years as one day now I did the math on this. many of you have to. 40 years on this earth is 57.6 minutes in heaven.
Oh they say the one year is a thousand in gods, and if all that they say is true. all the moments we've laughed. all the times that we cried have been less than an hour or two. Now the angels have taken you back to our god, but if I close my eyes and I think in his time in less than an hour I will be holding you in my arms again, in less than an hour my test on this earth will be through, all of my dreams will
that come true spending eternity with you in less than an hour.
Oh it doesn't seem long as the seconds go bye, but there's time when I feel so alone as I fall to my knees I feel arms holding me and I know that I'm not on my own, He knows just how I feel cause he has been there before, but he see what I don't he see years that are minutes, in less than an hour I will be holding you in my arms again in less than an hour my test on this earth will be through all of my dream will than come true spending eternity with you in less than an hour the tears I cry now will turn to tears of joy in less than an hour the heart ache and sadness will be all through all of my dreams will than come true, spending eternity with you is all I see, think of the things that we will do in less than an hour.
http://cdbaby.com/cd/csteele2 and you can listen to it. please send my condolacne to the family and Friends. it is a ache that is always there in your heart a true heart ache. thanks you for letting me going on .
His time table is not our own time table, it is different than ours, we have a glimpse in that in the book of Peter. where it says but beloved be not ignorant of this one thing that one day to the lords is 1,000 years. and a thousand years as one day now I did the math on this. many of you have to. 40 years on this earth is 57.6 minutes in heaven.
Oh they say the one year is a thousand in gods, and if all that they say is true. all the moments we've laughed. all the times that we cried have been less than an hour or two. Now the angels have taken you back to our god, but if I close my eyes and I think in his time in less than an hour I will be holding you in my arms again, in less than an hour my test on this earth will be through, all of my dreams will
that come true spending eternity with you in less than an hour.
Oh it doesn't seem long as the seconds go bye, but there's time when I feel so alone as I fall to my knees I feel arms holding me and I know that I'm not on my own, He knows just how I feel cause he has been there before, but he see what I don't he see years that are minutes, in less than an hour I will be holding you in my arms again in less than an hour my test on this earth will be through all of my dream will than come true spending eternity with you in less than an hour the tears I cry now will turn to tears of joy in less than an hour the heart ache and sadness will be all through all of my dreams will than come true, spending eternity with you is all I see, think of the things that we will do in less than an hour.
Kristy the Kooky Kat
What a gem of a kooky kat was our Kristy. We did the whole BFA thing together, and all I remeber is laughing....a lot. I know we did some learning, but it was usually secondary to or coupled with the laughing.
We had a get together at the Palizzi house one night with all the kids from BFA, and she got me laughing so hard during dinner that I actually inhaled my orange soda. Of course, I never would have inhaled the soda had it not been for a well timed snort during her own laughter. I ran into the kitchen because there was now orange soda coming out my nose (I guess that's the best exit route from your lungs). So, I'm in there wheezing for all I'm worth trying to clear my lungs of soda, and Ian Paget comes in, stares at me like I'm an alien, goes into the other room and quietly asks, "Does anyone know the heimlich maneuver?" Right then the missionaries showed up at the door and Kristy tried to get them to do the heimlich. They politely declined while I was wheezing and gesturing wildly not to have anyone heimlich me. Right about the time my lungs were almost clear enough to be able to talk again, Kristy convinced one of the other kids to heimlich me, which didn't do wonders for my newly recovered breathing skill. Oooohhhh the laughter that ensued.
There are so many memories of laughing (and snorting). She was just a kick to be around. Besides that, she's the only one I knew who could keep all the DJW names straight. The world lost a fun friendy and a fantastic person.
I mourn for her family, especially her children, but I appreciate this opportunity to celebrate her life. Palizzi family, we love you and are praying for you. Lael (Leavitt) Bythrow
We had a get together at the Palizzi house one night with all the kids from BFA, and she got me laughing so hard during dinner that I actually inhaled my orange soda. Of course, I never would have inhaled the soda had it not been for a well timed snort during her own laughter. I ran into the kitchen because there was now orange soda coming out my nose (I guess that's the best exit route from your lungs). So, I'm in there wheezing for all I'm worth trying to clear my lungs of soda, and Ian Paget comes in, stares at me like I'm an alien, goes into the other room and quietly asks, "Does anyone know the heimlich maneuver?" Right then the missionaries showed up at the door and Kristy tried to get them to do the heimlich. They politely declined while I was wheezing and gesturing wildly not to have anyone heimlich me. Right about the time my lungs were almost clear enough to be able to talk again, Kristy convinced one of the other kids to heimlich me, which didn't do wonders for my newly recovered breathing skill. Oooohhhh the laughter that ensued.
There are so many memories of laughing (and snorting). She was just a kick to be around. Besides that, she's the only one I knew who could keep all the DJW names straight. The world lost a fun friendy and a fantastic person.
I mourn for her family, especially her children, but I appreciate this opportunity to celebrate her life. Palizzi family, we love you and are praying for you. Lael (Leavitt) Bythrow
I'll miss you, my friend.
I have been putting off posting, because how do I say goodbye to my best friend? How do I come up with the words?
I have known you my entire life. You were my first friend, my "partner in crime". My fellow snacker of lipstick and toothpaste. Kristy, do you know to this day I can't wear lipstick because the taste and smell of it make me sick? I have so many memories of you, that I couldn't even begin to list them all. As true sisters, we didn't always get along, but you always forgave my hormones and forgave me for being a teenaged snot. We made countless silly videos, you, me and J. You stood by my side and sang with me on many occasions, most importantly, the day we buried my nephew. I was lucky enough to witness the first time you cleaned a turkey. That is a day that I think will brighten even the dreariest day for me. And I bet if I mentioned it to your mom, she'd even laugh.
If you were looking over my shoulder right now, I would just have to say the word "spit tape" and you would do that awesome silent laugh, and point. You know what I mean. You were the one that came for me when my house burned to the ground. You came to my rescue when *gasp* my choir teacher wanted me to sing a solo. I remember your mom chasing us in the basement to "Peer gynt" (I hope I spelled that right). I remember driving our brothers crazy, singing New Kids on the Block at the top of our lungs. I remember you meeting each one of my children. I remember meeting your beautiful boys for the first time.
I'm also sure you are the one that brought me peace this week, when I lay devastated on my bed, wondering why you had to be taken from this world. I know you're at peace. I'll get there, too.
Please give "Papa Bob" the biggest hug from me. I have no doubt in my mind that he was there to greet you when you came home. You were another daughter to him, and he would not miss the chance to welcome you home. Tell him that I love him and I miss him.
I love you, and I will miss you always!
Becky
I have known you my entire life. You were my first friend, my "partner in crime". My fellow snacker of lipstick and toothpaste. Kristy, do you know to this day I can't wear lipstick because the taste and smell of it make me sick? I have so many memories of you, that I couldn't even begin to list them all. As true sisters, we didn't always get along, but you always forgave my hormones and forgave me for being a teenaged snot. We made countless silly videos, you, me and J. You stood by my side and sang with me on many occasions, most importantly, the day we buried my nephew. I was lucky enough to witness the first time you cleaned a turkey. That is a day that I think will brighten even the dreariest day for me. And I bet if I mentioned it to your mom, she'd even laugh.
If you were looking over my shoulder right now, I would just have to say the word "spit tape" and you would do that awesome silent laugh, and point. You know what I mean. You were the one that came for me when my house burned to the ground. You came to my rescue when *gasp* my choir teacher wanted me to sing a solo. I remember your mom chasing us in the basement to "Peer gynt" (I hope I spelled that right). I remember driving our brothers crazy, singing New Kids on the Block at the top of our lungs. I remember you meeting each one of my children. I remember meeting your beautiful boys for the first time.
I'm also sure you are the one that brought me peace this week, when I lay devastated on my bed, wondering why you had to be taken from this world. I know you're at peace. I'll get there, too.
Please give "Papa Bob" the biggest hug from me. I have no doubt in my mind that he was there to greet you when you came home. You were another daughter to him, and he would not miss the chance to welcome you home. Tell him that I love him and I miss him.
I love you, and I will miss you always!
Becky
Missionary, Singer, Friend
I knew Kristy as Sister Palazzi when she was serving a mission in Alabama. I went on trade offs with her, and drove her and her companions to district and zone conferences. We had many amazing experiences. One of the most profound experiences I had with her is we sang at a members' funeral in my home ward. The spirit was so strong and we loved this person more than anything. Kristy has an amazing voice, and it was great to sing with her. Kristy Palazzi was one of the Sister Missionaries that helped me in my decision to go on and serve a mission myself. I am so grateful for the experiences that I have had with her and the person I have become because of her. I know that she is with our friends and loves ones in the after life now. She will be loved and missed.Stormy (Hutto) McCartha
Hug Your Little Ones a Little Tighter
I had the great privilege to serve the end of my mission with Kristy in Dothan, Alabama in 1999. She was always upbeat, always smiling and willing to work hard. I learned a great deal from her dedication to the Lord. My heart breaks for her family and her beautiful little boys... hug your loved ones a little tighter and don't be afraid to express your love to all those around you. Thank you to those that have shared your thoughts about Kristy, it is wonderful to see how loved she was. "Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid." John 14:27I love you, Kristy. You will be missed. Crystal
My Dear Sweet Palizzi
Dear Kristy,
I called you Sister Palizzi for so long - that's how I'll always remember you.... My sweet sister missionary companion. You rode a bike with me all over the Florida State University campus in the middle of August. How stupid did we look with our dresses tucked into our socks, with those big bulky helmets on? But, we were so happy! Some of my fondest missionary moments are with you. You were my family for four months. We laughed, prayed, cried, got sick, prayed, cried, sang, cried, prayed, laughed, prayed, cried, and cried together! When I think of you, I just have to smile. How can I not?
I LOVED singing with you. Your voice is incredible, and I know you will continue your singing in heaven. What a blessing music is. Thank you for sharing your talent with so many people.
Thank you for your wonderful advice, and your silly jokes, and your many long talks (during and after the mission). Thank you for coming to my sealing when you were very pregnant! I love that you said you wouldn't miss it.
I love you Kristy, and I'll miss you - I already do. I can't wait to see you again.
Love, Mollie (Sister Bridgers) Olorenshaw
I called you Sister Palizzi for so long - that's how I'll always remember you.... My sweet sister missionary companion. You rode a bike with me all over the Florida State University campus in the middle of August. How stupid did we look with our dresses tucked into our socks, with those big bulky helmets on? But, we were so happy! Some of my fondest missionary moments are with you. You were my family for four months. We laughed, prayed, cried, got sick, prayed, cried, sang, cried, prayed, laughed, prayed, cried, and cried together! When I think of you, I just have to smile. How can I not?
I LOVED singing with you. Your voice is incredible, and I know you will continue your singing in heaven. What a blessing music is. Thank you for sharing your talent with so many people.
Thank you for your wonderful advice, and your silly jokes, and your many long talks (during and after the mission). Thank you for coming to my sealing when you were very pregnant! I love that you said you wouldn't miss it.
I love you Kristy, and I'll miss you - I already do. I can't wait to see you again.
Love, Mollie (Sister Bridgers) Olorenshaw
No words to describe the feelings I have...
I do not know Kristy and I am but a by standard to this tragic event, but my heart goes out to her boys, her family and her In-Laws. I do not even know what to say but that I am truly sorry. I believe she is heaven watching over her boys and still raising them.
All I can say or do is leave my testimony of this amazing gospel and hope that this brings hope and peace into our lives.
I know the Lord Loves us, the gospel is real and that God sent his only begotten Son down to earth to break the bands of death. We will all rise from the grave. And on that day we will embrace our loved ones. Because of the life and eternal sacrifice of the Savior of the world, we will be reunited with those we have cherished. On that day we will know the love of our Heavenly Father. On that day we will rejoice that the Messiah overcame all that we could live forever. Because of the sacred ordinances we receive in holy temples, our departure from this brief mortality cannot long separate relationships that have been fastened together with cords made of eternal ties.
Because of our beloved Redeemer, we can lift up our voices, even in the midst of our darkest Fridays, and proclaim, “O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?
May God bless us in our darkest hours and bring joy and peace into our lives....
All I can say or do is leave my testimony of this amazing gospel and hope that this brings hope and peace into our lives.
I know the Lord Loves us, the gospel is real and that God sent his only begotten Son down to earth to break the bands of death. We will all rise from the grave. And on that day we will embrace our loved ones. Because of the life and eternal sacrifice of the Savior of the world, we will be reunited with those we have cherished. On that day we will know the love of our Heavenly Father. On that day we will rejoice that the Messiah overcame all that we could live forever. Because of the sacred ordinances we receive in holy temples, our departure from this brief mortality cannot long separate relationships that have been fastened together with cords made of eternal ties.
Because of our beloved Redeemer, we can lift up our voices, even in the midst of our darkest Fridays, and proclaim, “O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?
May God bless us in our darkest hours and bring joy and peace into our lives....
Trust Fund?
We would really like to donate to a trust fund for Kristy's children and family. We checked the newspaper sites you listed but did not find anything about a trust fund. Could you please give information if you have it? Thank you very much.
Please accept our sincerest condolences.
Please accept our sincerest condolences.
Sweet Kristy
My dear sweet friend, I will alway's remember the late night girl talk. The tear's, laughter and the too many to count inside joke's. I will forever hold you close to my heart as a true friend. Kristy you were always too much but we could never get enough! I wish for nothing less than for you to be there to greet me with your beautiful smile and your laugh that can't stop before letting a snort out when I have the blessing of returning home. You are home! Forever my love, Cynthia Wagner Perry P.S. Give Donald a hug for me!
I don't know what exactly has drawn me here to this blog, however I feel connected to her in a way by, myself trying to endure a marriage that the spirit could no longer be a part of. I commend her for having the courage to leave to give her boys a healthier enviroment. Heavenly Father knows the intents of her heart and will give her all the eternal blessings that she deserves and desires for her family. What a great network of family and friends that she has been blessed with, who want nothing more but to celebrate her life and share her life with others. My prayers and thoughts go out to all of you who were touched by Kristy and to her sweet boys who no dought will know how much their mother loved them.
Best Friend
Kristy was my best friend I've known her my whole life. I have so many memories of her and every one of them is my favorite. She always could make me smile even if she was the one who made me cry :) We shared the same Birthday and for many years we always would spend it together. She was 15 minutes older than me and she would always remind me that she was older than me. My time was finally here and I couldn't wait to call her on our birthday and tell her she was turning 30 before me because after all she was 15 minutes older. I love Kristy with all my heart and I will always. I will miss our late night chats, and all of our silly times. Kristy was a card and I loved spending time with her. I know in heaven she promissed she would find me and be my best friend and I am greatful for that. My heart goes out to her friends in Utah and most of all my heart goes out to her family and her two sweet children. I love You Kristy!!!
Happy 30th Birthday Kristy and tell Josie I said Hi and I love him.
Happy 30th Birthday Kristy and tell Josie I said Hi and I love him.
Missionary memory
Sister Palizzi was in my district in the MTC. I remember her as a person with a strong testimony and a very outgoing personality. She was a caring and beautiful person. I wish I could have known her longer than those short 2 weeks.
We love Kristy, too.
Hi, my name is Cheryl and I am Kristy's cousin David's wife. I've been alternating between disbelief and mourning since I heard about Kristy's death. I won't ever forget the first time I met Kristy because she always made such an impression - usually intimidating at first, followed by inexplicably irritating, and then finally endearing once you realized she was 100 percent sincere. I've known her for the past dozen years but after she had children and we lived in the same area, we really connected. We live in Texas now and it's been very hard not to be able to be with family during this time, but our hearts and thoughts and prayers have been with you all. We love you! Thank you to the person who set up this blog. I think it will be very therapeutic for so many people. I wanted to share a personal blog entry I made about Kristy yesterday:
Did I ever complain about something as insignificant as laundry? Did I really waste hours and hours doing nothing? Have I neglected the people I love? Have I neglected to tell them I love them - all of them? Did I ever really begrudge that all life's moments weren't absolutely brimming with euphoria? How did I miss that even the mundane things are a blessing? Even surviving the very worst is an inconceivable, precious blessing.
My cousin-in-law was shot and killed yesterday by her psychotic husband. She was 30, a year younger than me. She had two very young boys. Recently we'd had a long phone conversation about how she was pursuing a divorce because she'd just discovered her husband was having an affair. Last week I thought about calling to check on her again. I thought about it several times. I didn't get around to it.
Kristy was lively and beautiful and bossy and funny and flat-out honest and comfortable with herself. She sang beautifully and often. And right now my heart is breaking for the selfish misery that I won't see her again for I don't know how long, but I know she is still all of those things. And I know she is still singing, up there in heaven. It doesn't matter that there are legions of heavenly choirs; somewhere in some congregation, Kristy has arranged her first post-mortal musical solo and she isn't even nervous.
I sob thinking of her boys and the energy they will miss - the force that was their mother. And I sob thinking of Aunt Annie, who was present at the shooting. But somehow we'll all get through this temporary and tragic separation, and I'm thinking that maybe Kristy already knows that. Maybe better than we do. I still can't help sobbing though.
I'm going to miss you, Kristy.
Did I ever complain about something as insignificant as laundry? Did I really waste hours and hours doing nothing? Have I neglected the people I love? Have I neglected to tell them I love them - all of them? Did I ever really begrudge that all life's moments weren't absolutely brimming with euphoria? How did I miss that even the mundane things are a blessing? Even surviving the very worst is an inconceivable, precious blessing.
My cousin-in-law was shot and killed yesterday by her psychotic husband. She was 30, a year younger than me. She had two very young boys. Recently we'd had a long phone conversation about how she was pursuing a divorce because she'd just discovered her husband was having an affair. Last week I thought about calling to check on her again. I thought about it several times. I didn't get around to it.
Kristy was lively and beautiful and bossy and funny and flat-out honest and comfortable with herself. She sang beautifully and often. And right now my heart is breaking for the selfish misery that I won't see her again for I don't know how long, but I know she is still all of those things. And I know she is still singing, up there in heaven. It doesn't matter that there are legions of heavenly choirs; somewhere in some congregation, Kristy has arranged her first post-mortal musical solo and she isn't even nervous.
I sob thinking of her boys and the energy they will miss - the force that was their mother. And I sob thinking of Aunt Annie, who was present at the shooting. But somehow we'll all get through this temporary and tragic separation, and I'm thinking that maybe Kristy already knows that. Maybe better than we do. I still can't help sobbing though.
I'm going to miss you, Kristy.
My Thoughts are with You
Hello fellow neighbors/friends/ward members. I just wanted you to know my thoughts have been with you through this tragedy. I am so sad that this horrible incident happened. I am grateful that I had the opportunity to know Kristy. What a beautiful, strong woman she was. I was lucky enough to have her visit teach me. She was so well versed in the scriptures and had such a strong testimony. I looked forward to talking(or mostly listening) to/with her. She constantly reached out to others and was very friendly. She was a great example. I loved listening to her sing. She had the voice of an angel. I loved how outspoken she was. Always kept me on my toes. I will miss her.
I miss all of you. I am praying for peace. I am praying that all of you can find peace. It's times like these that make me so grateful for the Plan of Salvation. I know Kristy is in a better place and is making friends with lots of people up there. God Bless all of you. Take care.
Amber Meyers
I miss all of you. I am praying for peace. I am praying that all of you can find peace. It's times like these that make me so grateful for the Plan of Salvation. I know Kristy is in a better place and is making friends with lots of people up there. God Bless all of you. Take care.
Amber Meyers
NEVER KNEW HER...WISH I HAD...
Hi,
I never knew Kristy but, from what i have been seeing on the news and have read on her blog i really wish i had the honor to have met her. My prayers are with Kristy and her precious children. May they feel of our Father in heaven's spirit and feel his love for them especially at this time of mourning and sorrow. And all her friends and family as well.
Sorry i never knew her and that i do not have any memories of her!!! i really wish i could be of more "help" in some way! if there is anything i can do for her friends and family! please do not hesitate to contact me
my email address is: heidi_gailrichhart@msn.com
You can also feel free to visit my blog @http://heidithesweetheart.blogspot.com/
Sorry if posting my email address and all has offended anyone in anyway! i do apologize. I Just wanted to let everyone know how to contact me if there is anything i can do for them and all.
My Prayers are for Kristy's Children, Parents, and all her colleagues, friends and ward members and all those who love her and all.
I never knew Kristy but, from what i have been seeing on the news and have read on her blog i really wish i had the honor to have met her. My prayers are with Kristy and her precious children. May they feel of our Father in heaven's spirit and feel his love for them especially at this time of mourning and sorrow. And all her friends and family as well.
Sorry i never knew her and that i do not have any memories of her!!! i really wish i could be of more "help" in some way! if there is anything i can do for her friends and family! please do not hesitate to contact me
my email address is: heidi_gailrichhart@msn.com
You can also feel free to visit my blog @http://heidithesweetheart.blogspot.com/
Sorry if posting my email address and all has offended anyone in anyway! i do apologize. I Just wanted to let everyone know how to contact me if there is anything i can do for them and all.
My Prayers are for Kristy's Children, Parents, and all her colleagues, friends and ward members and all those who love her and all.
IMPORTANT FUNERAL INFO
Just posted details about the Funeral!!! Check the sidebar on the left hand side of this blog.
p.s., The music on this blog has been provided by those who spoke with Kristy about each specific song and she loved all of this music individually. The Michael Buble song was provided by Madi, who was one of our ward's Young Women. She shares a special memory with Kristy based on that song. My heart goes out to the young ones that have to make sense of all this somehow...
p.s., The music on this blog has been provided by those who spoke with Kristy about each specific song and she loved all of this music individually. The Michael Buble song was provided by Madi, who was one of our ward's Young Women. She shares a special memory with Kristy based on that song. My heart goes out to the young ones that have to make sense of all this somehow...
How many lives you touched
I live in Kristy's former ward (Jordan Meadows). I did not know her well, but still she made an impression on me. The first time we met was to practice for a trio we were to sing in at church. She was new to the ward and I'd heard of her and that she was rather abrasive. While I could see where she might give that first impression, I quickly discovered in that first meeting that I liked her. I remember talking with her as we worked together in the kitchen on enrichment nights. Neither of us the type to hold back our thoughts, we had some wonderful and candid talks. But the thing I remember most about her, was her testimony. It seemed to radiate from her no matter what the conversation was about. I only wish I had been more of friend.
Kristy, you've touched more hearts than you could possibly know. You will be greatly missed in this world.
~Amber
Kristy, you've touched more hearts than you could possibly know. You will be greatly missed in this world.
~Amber
What a Beautiful Woman
I did not know Kristy, I had never met her, but I really wish I had. For some reason I signed onto this blog to let her family and friends know how sorry I am for losing her. I have never wanted to meet someone more. I wish I could have known her, and been her friend. She sounds amazing. My condolences to her family and friends.
Natalie
Natalie
Pep Talks
I worked with Kristy as paralegal at her attorney's law firm.
The following are just a few of my favorite memories of her.
How even though she was going through tough stuff she would always ask about my husband and I - not just politely. She really wanted to know how we were and what we were up to.
Her telling me I should wear bright blue every day because "it looks so good with your super-white skin."
Sitting with her youngest while she reviewed documents.
Seeing her play with her youngest in front of the mirrors in our office.
Her ending nearly every conversation I had with her about her case with "I don't want to fight. I don't want us to be bitter."
Talking with her about Real Estate courses and opportunities in the market.
Her not wanting to end a conversation until she knew everything that I knew about whatever legal topic we were discussing.
No matter how boring most clients tend to find what I do, it was important to her to understand every iota of what was happening, and she thanked me for my efforts on her behalf - something that puts her in the company of only a handful of others who have done the same in my three years at the firm.
Alicia B.
The following are just a few of my favorite memories of her.
How even though she was going through tough stuff she would always ask about my husband and I - not just politely. She really wanted to know how we were and what we were up to.
Her telling me I should wear bright blue every day because "it looks so good with your super-white skin."
Sitting with her youngest while she reviewed documents.
Seeing her play with her youngest in front of the mirrors in our office.
Her ending nearly every conversation I had with her about her case with "I don't want to fight. I don't want us to be bitter."
Talking with her about Real Estate courses and opportunities in the market.
Her not wanting to end a conversation until she knew everything that I knew about whatever legal topic we were discussing.
No matter how boring most clients tend to find what I do, it was important to her to understand every iota of what was happening, and she thanked me for my efforts on her behalf - something that puts her in the company of only a handful of others who have done the same in my three years at the firm.
Alicia B.
I have so many wonderful and sweet memories of our dear Kristy. She was so very sensitive and in tune with me when I needed to just talk. She always knew what to say and how to say, just what I needed to hear. She also knew when and how to listen with her whole heart and would just watch me talk with her deep beautiful brown, caring, and kind eyes that had so much love and concern and compassion in them. Oh, how I could feel her love for me and compassion for how I felt. It was as though she knew what I felt! I sure do miss you Kristy and will for a very, very long time. You carried your burdens with such strength of character and such faith. What a great example you have been to me and will continue to be for me. You will not be forgotten. Not ever. I can’t wait to see you and “sing” with you again!
Love forever,Corinne
Love forever,Corinne
I will understand if you feel this post is a little bit off topic for this particular forum and if you want to delete it then I won’t mind.
I decided to look up information on these two particular anti-depressants to see if they could have played a role in this tragic incident. Some of what I found is a bit disturbing. (Note: this information comes from Wikipedia so it isn’t to be construed as clinical)
Paroxetine is an SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor) with the following side effects:
- Apathy
- Loss of empathy
- Flattening of emotional response
Rare:
- Uncharacteristic levels of aggression
- Uncharacteristic risk taking
- Bipolar mania or hypomania (Manic patients may need to be hospitalized to protect themselves and others)
Doxepin is a psychotropic agent with tricyclic antidepressant and anxiolytic properties. The side effects for this drug are not near as disturbing with really only the following: “Doxepin may worsen psychotic conditions like schizophrenia and should be given with caution.”
I know that in life if we go looking for an explanation to something, if we search hard enough, we can cherry pick our way through information to a resolution. Maybe that is what I am doing, but for the life of me I can’t wrap my head around Dave doing this to Kristy without thinking that he had to have been on drugs, either that or he has literally gone crazy since we worked together in our ward, this is not the same guy I knew.
Now, I know that in the end everyone is given agency and I am not trying to abdicate blame for Dave. That being said I hope that for the sake of his soul that these drugs played a contributing factor in this horrible situation. It may just be me not wanting to accept the fact that one of my fellow humans could act so inhumane, I don’t know, I really don’t know.
Adopted Little Sister
Kristy was a like another little sister to me, Andy a brother and Ann & Al like parents. Kristy, my sister Becky and Jorgena were three of a kind for many years growing up. Her family and ours were always very close and they were there for us at the most difficult times (house fire, Jonathon's death, Dad's death). Our lives and theirs have been intertwined for 30 years. My heart and prayers go out to all the Palizzis and all the other friends and family affected by this tragedy.
Kristy will leave a big hole for everyone that knew her.
Rick Fielding
http://www.thefieldingfamily.com/
Kristy will leave a big hole for everyone that knew her.
Rick Fielding
http://www.thefieldingfamily.com/
Sweet Spirit
I have known Kristy since girls camp and she was always happy and energetic. I know that she is using that same energy as she continues to do the Lord's work. I will keep her family in my prayers.
I didn't know Kristy very well, but she was a person you couldn't help but notice. Not only was she beautiful, but she had a beautiful personality. The few things I knew about her were that she was always happy, and looked for the positive side of things, she was friendly to everyone. I am so sick that her sons won't be able to grow up with such a wonderful mother. Her younger son was born around the same time as my daughters, and I can't imagine not being there to raise them and watch them grow. I am sure they will hear from family and friends what an amazing person she was. I hope they will have a copy of all the wonderful memories everyone has shared on this blog so that they can read them throughout their life and hopefully get to know her better through others experiences with her. What a thoughtful way to remember her. Kristy, you will be missed!
Till we meet again.
I knew Kristy in Washington. We were in the singles ward together. She knew my husband and his family. Kristy came to my bridal shower and her mom helped my mom plan the reception.
Kristy was a very beautiful person. I had the privilege of hearing her gorgeous voice and being the recipient of her kindness.
My heart aches for her family. God bless you, you are in our prayers continually.
Much, much love,
Sonja Ames
Kristy was a very beautiful person. I had the privilege of hearing her gorgeous voice and being the recipient of her kindness.
My heart aches for her family. God bless you, you are in our prayers continually.
Much, much love,
Sonja Ames
what an example...
I love this blog dedicated to Kristy. I know that she is aware of how much we are all missing her.
Kristy was my visiting teacher. She will forever live in my memory as someone who gives selfless acts of service.
I didn't know her that well at first, but she is the kind of person that after you talk to her once or twice you feel like close friends.
She always knew the right things to say. After I had my baby, she came to bring dinner. As soon as I opened the door, she said "WOW, you have already lost so much weight! I can even see in in your face!" What a perfect thing to say to someone who has a week old baby (even if she was making it up:)
Even during her trials with the seperation, she would always remember to think of me. Numerous times she brought cupcakes from Dipidee, saying "just thinking about you today!" I would always feel guilty thinking that I should be taking care of HER, not the other way around!
As I look at all the pink ribbons on our street, I know that Kristy was a soul that touched all of us. She will be greatly missed till we see her again. (I can't wait to yell at her for getting me addicted to Dipidee cupcakes :):):)
Kristy was my visiting teacher. She will forever live in my memory as someone who gives selfless acts of service.
I didn't know her that well at first, but she is the kind of person that after you talk to her once or twice you feel like close friends.
She always knew the right things to say. After I had my baby, she came to bring dinner. As soon as I opened the door, she said "WOW, you have already lost so much weight! I can even see in in your face!" What a perfect thing to say to someone who has a week old baby (even if she was making it up:)
Even during her trials with the seperation, she would always remember to think of me. Numerous times she brought cupcakes from Dipidee, saying "just thinking about you today!" I would always feel guilty thinking that I should be taking care of HER, not the other way around!
As I look at all the pink ribbons on our street, I know that Kristy was a soul that touched all of us. She will be greatly missed till we see her again. (I can't wait to yell at her for getting me addicted to Dipidee cupcakes :):):)
Thank You my Friend!
I think about Kristy and what she has meant to me over the past two years and my heart is full of gratitude. I am so thankful to her for her example, for her advice, for her prayers, for her help, for her laugh, for her honesty, her bluntness and so much more. I am grateful for the memories I have, for the two minute conversations, for our instant bond that was made when she became the chick from Puyallup and I became the chick from Bellevue. We always planned a road trip together knowing it would have been crazy driving 13 hours with 4 kids under the age of 5, but she was up for it and could handle anything.
I will always remember that over the last couple of months when she needed me so much more than I needed her, that she gave me so much more than I gave her. I am grateful for the memories and for the laughter I can't stop from coming as I remember our friendship. Kristy will always be a part of me and I will never be the same as I was before, I am a better person for having had her in my life.
Kristy and I had a conversation a few months ago when she was at my house and we listened to this song together and talked about what a wonderful song it would be to play at a funeral. I'll think of her whenever I hear this song.
~
Every now and then soft as breath upon my skin
I feel you come back again
And it’s like you haven’t been gone a moment from my side,
Like the tears were never cried,
Like the hands of time were pulling you and me.
And with all my heart I’m sure we’re closer than we ever were,
I don’t have to hear or see I’ve got all the proof I need.
There are more than angels watching over me
I believe
Oh I believe
Now when you die and life goes on,
It doesn't end here when you're gone
Every soul has found a flight
It never ends if I’m right.
Our love can even reach across eternity.
I believe
Oh I believe
Forever you’re a part of me,
Forever in the heart of me,
I will hold you even longer if I can.
Oh the people, who don’t see the most,
See that I believe in ghosts.
If that makes me crazy then I am
Cuz I believe
Oh I believe
There are more than angels watching over me.
I believe
Oh I believe
Every now and then soft as breath upon my skin,
I feel you come back again
And I believe.
-Diamond Rio
I love you Kristy, and you'd better be there to greet me when I leave this life or you and I are going to have issues! I'll be serving others as you would have and I thank you for teaching me what Christ meant when he said, "If you love me, feed my sheep."
Love,
Bellevue Chick
I will always remember that over the last couple of months when she needed me so much more than I needed her, that she gave me so much more than I gave her. I am grateful for the memories and for the laughter I can't stop from coming as I remember our friendship. Kristy will always be a part of me and I will never be the same as I was before, I am a better person for having had her in my life.
Kristy and I had a conversation a few months ago when she was at my house and we listened to this song together and talked about what a wonderful song it would be to play at a funeral. I'll think of her whenever I hear this song.
~
Every now and then soft as breath upon my skin
I feel you come back again
And it’s like you haven’t been gone a moment from my side,
Like the tears were never cried,
Like the hands of time were pulling you and me.
And with all my heart I’m sure we’re closer than we ever were,
I don’t have to hear or see I’ve got all the proof I need.
There are more than angels watching over me
I believe
Oh I believe
Now when you die and life goes on,
It doesn't end here when you're gone
Every soul has found a flight
It never ends if I’m right.
Our love can even reach across eternity.
I believe
Oh I believe
Forever you’re a part of me,
Forever in the heart of me,
I will hold you even longer if I can.
Oh the people, who don’t see the most,
See that I believe in ghosts.
If that makes me crazy then I am
Cuz I believe
Oh I believe
There are more than angels watching over me.
I believe
Oh I believe
Every now and then soft as breath upon my skin,
I feel you come back again
And I believe.
-Diamond Rio
I love you Kristy, and you'd better be there to greet me when I leave this life or you and I are going to have issues! I'll be serving others as you would have and I thank you for teaching me what Christ meant when he said, "If you love me, feed my sheep."
Love,
Bellevue Chick
A Beautiful Wreath
A talented friend of Kristy's will be creating a wreath for the funeral. She would like to incorporate photos of Kristy into the wreath. We are asking you to forward pictures that might work to kristymemoryblog@yahoo.com
Thank you in advance for your time.
Thank you in advance for your time.
What a spirit...
I am from Kristy’s old ward, Jordan Meadows. Even though she moved a while ago, I still spoke with her regularly, and saw her occasionally. She was such an example to me in so many ways. Never afraid to bear her testimony. Never afraid to make a friend. Never afraid to say what’s on her mind. Never afraid to help others. She had courage. She was authentic. I have SO many memories of her…
-Right after she moved in to our neighborhood, she participated with our Relief Society in a musical presentation. I sang a duet with another woman for part of the program. During practice, Kristy came up to me at the podium in the chapel and actually physically moved my head so it was closer to the microphone. :o)
-I barely knew her, and she found out my husband and I were going on a cruise. She brought over a “cruise gift basket” that she put together for me. Sun glasses, sun block, lip balm, regular body lotion, and 2 pairs of Victoria’s Secret thong underwear!
-She was one of the first people to ever actually ask me if my boobs were real. Classic Kristy. When she found out they are indeed real, she asked me what kind of bra I used so she could be perky too. :o)
-She would call me and ask me how she could teach her kids to be honest. And how should she handle temper tantrums with Brandon…she always wanted to be the best mother she could be.
-She was never afraid to say “I think you’ve lost weight in your butt and hips” after I had my 4th baby.
-Talking for hours on the phone about EVERYTHING. From celebrity marriages, to birth control, to the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
-Being amazed that she thought I was an example to HER, when in reality I looked up to her in many ways. She was the one that put forth most of the effort in our friendship, yet she would tell me how much my friendship meant to her.
-Learning from her that I don’t want to be afraid to say how I feel, and I don’t want to be afraid to open myself up to others.
-When I was pregnant with my 4th, she was the one who threw a shower for me. Didn’t hesitate. It was great.
-She had the guts to share the story of her bikini wax before she had Carter. Hilarious!!!
-Babysitting Brandon many times, and her watching my kids. I felt that she truly loved my kids.
-Talking about the Twilight series so late into the night, that we both almost fell asleep on the phone. She was the one who brought me Twilight and told me I should read it.
-Her bearing her testimony at every chance. Through everything, and above everything, I know she had a strong and secure faith. She knew her Savior.
Kristy, know that I love you. I’m so sorry I never said that to you when I had the chance. I’m sorry if I ever seemed distant. You showed me what a friend is. You taught me so much, even though you claimed the opposite. Thank you. My heart breaks that the chance to raise your boys has been taken from you. But I know you will be with them again. I look to the day when we can laugh with one another again. I hope to live my life better because of you.
Love, Allyson
-Right after she moved in to our neighborhood, she participated with our Relief Society in a musical presentation. I sang a duet with another woman for part of the program. During practice, Kristy came up to me at the podium in the chapel and actually physically moved my head so it was closer to the microphone. :o)
-I barely knew her, and she found out my husband and I were going on a cruise. She brought over a “cruise gift basket” that she put together for me. Sun glasses, sun block, lip balm, regular body lotion, and 2 pairs of Victoria’s Secret thong underwear!
-She was one of the first people to ever actually ask me if my boobs were real. Classic Kristy. When she found out they are indeed real, she asked me what kind of bra I used so she could be perky too. :o)
-She would call me and ask me how she could teach her kids to be honest. And how should she handle temper tantrums with Brandon…she always wanted to be the best mother she could be.
-She was never afraid to say “I think you’ve lost weight in your butt and hips” after I had my 4th baby.
-Talking for hours on the phone about EVERYTHING. From celebrity marriages, to birth control, to the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
-Being amazed that she thought I was an example to HER, when in reality I looked up to her in many ways. She was the one that put forth most of the effort in our friendship, yet she would tell me how much my friendship meant to her.
-Learning from her that I don’t want to be afraid to say how I feel, and I don’t want to be afraid to open myself up to others.
-When I was pregnant with my 4th, she was the one who threw a shower for me. Didn’t hesitate. It was great.
-She had the guts to share the story of her bikini wax before she had Carter. Hilarious!!!
-Babysitting Brandon many times, and her watching my kids. I felt that she truly loved my kids.
-Talking about the Twilight series so late into the night, that we both almost fell asleep on the phone. She was the one who brought me Twilight and told me I should read it.
-Her bearing her testimony at every chance. Through everything, and above everything, I know she had a strong and secure faith. She knew her Savior.
Kristy, know that I love you. I’m so sorry I never said that to you when I had the chance. I’m sorry if I ever seemed distant. You showed me what a friend is. You taught me so much, even though you claimed the opposite. Thank you. My heart breaks that the chance to raise your boys has been taken from you. But I know you will be with them again. I look to the day when we can laugh with one another again. I hope to live my life better because of you.
Love, Allyson
Our Sassy Gal
*You may need to click "View All Images" to view the slide show*
These were taken last October when a bunch of us had a "witches night out"
~ she was full of sass that night! ;o) What a doll!!!
Look at those glamorous eyes and that sparkling smile.
My favorite picture is her pinching the bum of the stuffed mannequin witch - oh, Kristy - what a hoot!
I miss you deeply, darling!!! xoxox
Dear Kristy
Dear Kristy,
I have always hoped when a person passes away their spirit would be allowed to comfort family and friends for a time. That they would also be allowed to reflect on their life though others words and thoughts.
I wish I had taken the time to tell you these things while you were on the earth. Since I didn’t I hope some of my actions showed you that I loved you. I am so thankful I had the opportunity to be your visiting teacher and get to know the person I admired and some feared. I remember you asked me how to make friends in the ward. Although, I was your friend, I regret that I let my busy schedule, my trials, and other influences keep me from taking our friendship to another level.
I want to tell you the qualities I admired in you. I loved your smile. I can’t remember your face with out one. I can still hear your laugh, especially the times you would snort. It always amazed me how outgoing, fearless, and strong willed you were. I have yet to meet anyone as strong willed as you. I know you’re proud of that! I know you loved to help people and tried to do so through words, offering cleaning, fashion, make up, or music tips was your way of trying to help. I appreciated your honesty. Only a true friend or honest person tells you the hard core, straight up truth. I loved it when you would sing at church. Who didn’t? Thank your for sharing that talent with us. My son still talks about the ONE time Christmas carolers came to our house. I know there were others with you that day, but I can only remember your face and your mom’s. I thought it was so cool how close you were to your mother. She was your best friend and I’m glad she was there for you in your darkest hour. Your knowledge and testimony of the gospel was so impressive to me. Confession, that is your one quality that intimidated me. When I was first called as your visiting teacher I was horrified, because my knowledge of the gospel and testimony was not as strong as yours. What could I teach this girl? Of course, nothing, I was to learn from you and am thankful that gave me the opportunity to get to know you.
It breaks my heart that you are going to be separated from your boys for a while, but know you will be reunited with them someday. Kristy, I will try to learn and grow from your example and this tragedy. I know you will be a great missionary in heaven as you were on earth. Until we meet again, my friend.
Love,
Chris McAdams
I have always hoped when a person passes away their spirit would be allowed to comfort family and friends for a time. That they would also be allowed to reflect on their life though others words and thoughts.
I wish I had taken the time to tell you these things while you were on the earth. Since I didn’t I hope some of my actions showed you that I loved you. I am so thankful I had the opportunity to be your visiting teacher and get to know the person I admired and some feared. I remember you asked me how to make friends in the ward. Although, I was your friend, I regret that I let my busy schedule, my trials, and other influences keep me from taking our friendship to another level.
I want to tell you the qualities I admired in you. I loved your smile. I can’t remember your face with out one. I can still hear your laugh, especially the times you would snort. It always amazed me how outgoing, fearless, and strong willed you were. I have yet to meet anyone as strong willed as you. I know you’re proud of that! I know you loved to help people and tried to do so through words, offering cleaning, fashion, make up, or music tips was your way of trying to help. I appreciated your honesty. Only a true friend or honest person tells you the hard core, straight up truth. I loved it when you would sing at church. Who didn’t? Thank your for sharing that talent with us. My son still talks about the ONE time Christmas carolers came to our house. I know there were others with you that day, but I can only remember your face and your mom’s. I thought it was so cool how close you were to your mother. She was your best friend and I’m glad she was there for you in your darkest hour. Your knowledge and testimony of the gospel was so impressive to me. Confession, that is your one quality that intimidated me. When I was first called as your visiting teacher I was horrified, because my knowledge of the gospel and testimony was not as strong as yours. What could I teach this girl? Of course, nothing, I was to learn from you and am thankful that gave me the opportunity to get to know you.
It breaks my heart that you are going to be separated from your boys for a while, but know you will be reunited with them someday. Kristy, I will try to learn and grow from your example and this tragedy. I know you will be a great missionary in heaven as you were on earth. Until we meet again, my friend.
Love,
Chris McAdams
A Generous Heart
Thornton Wilder stated, “All that we can know about those we have loved and lost is that they would wish us to remember them with a more intensified realization of their reality…The highest tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude.” I love this quote and feel that this blog for Kristy accomplishes this "highest tribute". Here friends and family have shared fond memories of Kristy, and have highlighted her talents, characteristics, and generous heart. If you didn't know Kristy well, you get a good idea of who she was by reading the words posted here.
I didn't know Kristy very well, but had many occasions to be around her. That's all you needed to see her bubbly, happy personality. She was a patient of my husbands, and he knew her very well. He never was shocked by her willingness to verbalize what we all wanted to verbalize, but were afraid to. I think he understood her in these moments and I think they endeared her to him. I just wanted to share an experience he had with her that is a true example of the generous heart she had.
Every year my husband sponsors a Sub For Santa drive through his business. He works 2 days for free and allows his patients to bring in gifts, food, or money for the children's Christmas. Last year he sponsored 7 children. Kristy brought in a pair of shoes for each child. She said that if she was a struggling mother, she would want her children to have nice, warm shoes to wear, and she felt that this was the greatest way for her to help. I remember seeing all 7 pairs of shoes under his Christmas tree, and feeling so grateful to her and her generosity. It may seem like a simple thing, but I'm sure it meant so much to those children, and also to the mother of those children.
Kristy will truly be missed by her friends and family. I want to share a passage from 2 Timothy 4:6-8. "For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing." This scripture brought me so much comfort when I lost my best friend 4 years ago. I know that Kristy fought a good fight, and she definitely kept the faith. She will receive her crown of righteousness, and how beautiful she will be indeed.
I didn't know Kristy very well, but had many occasions to be around her. That's all you needed to see her bubbly, happy personality. She was a patient of my husbands, and he knew her very well. He never was shocked by her willingness to verbalize what we all wanted to verbalize, but were afraid to. I think he understood her in these moments and I think they endeared her to him. I just wanted to share an experience he had with her that is a true example of the generous heart she had.
Every year my husband sponsors a Sub For Santa drive through his business. He works 2 days for free and allows his patients to bring in gifts, food, or money for the children's Christmas. Last year he sponsored 7 children. Kristy brought in a pair of shoes for each child. She said that if she was a struggling mother, she would want her children to have nice, warm shoes to wear, and she felt that this was the greatest way for her to help. I remember seeing all 7 pairs of shoes under his Christmas tree, and feeling so grateful to her and her generosity. It may seem like a simple thing, but I'm sure it meant so much to those children, and also to the mother of those children.
Kristy will truly be missed by her friends and family. I want to share a passage from 2 Timothy 4:6-8. "For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing." This scripture brought me so much comfort when I lost my best friend 4 years ago. I know that Kristy fought a good fight, and she definitely kept the faith. She will receive her crown of righteousness, and how beautiful she will be indeed.
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