Monday, January 7, 2008

I take comfort in the fact that she was in a really happy place. She felt happier and calmer than she had in a long time. She felt independent, strong, and in control of her life for the first time. My favorite memories of Kristy include:
-Discussing Twilight
-Discussing Grey's Anatomy like the characters were actually REAL.
-Her telling me I needed to buy a push-up bra, because who wants to be a "saggy mama"??
-Singing her audition song to me in my home.. I think talent auditions were November 10..
-Thanking ME for being a good friend with tears in her eyes (she was the one that always put forth the most effort in our friendship and I'll never live that down).
-Her stopping by my house and we would stand outside her van and talk forever.. and Brandon escaped out the van door and starting booking it for the park as fast as he could run! We just kept talking and let him play there.
-She would always bring me ETIBLES, cookies, au gratin potatoes, cupcakes. I can thank her for my expanding figure.
-We would be finishing up an hour long conversation, she would walk toward her van and I would stand on my porch, and then she would come bounding back and say, "Oh, and YOU KNOW WHAT?????" And our conversation would go on for another 45 minutes.
-She was a smart girl. She knew Dave wasn't going to change. She knew it was just a matter of time before she wanted out of the marriage, officially.
-As the choir director, she gave some pretty great speeches during our choir practice. Most of them involving her inadequacies as a director, but I thought that having a love for music is all she really needed.
-I would go to her house and we would sing together for hours.
-Jake and I went to have dinner with her and Dave and she whisked me into the piano room after dinner and we sang. Then she forced me to go upstairs into her walk-in closet and try on her jeans. It was strangely fun.
-She always intimidated me in a way. How strong and how outspoken she was. The best way to describe her is she was a PASSIONATE person. She was passionate about everything. Getting to know her closely was so rewarding, because she really was such a good friend.
She will be missed so much.

Sarah S.
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5 comments:

Anonymous said...

What a sad and tragic situation. Kristy and Dave lived around the corner from us in Lehi prior to moving to their final location. My wife is a good friend of Kristy's and I got to know her pretty well myself. Dave and I worked together in our Young Men's organization in our ward.

I always wondered how long this marriage would last given the comments from Kristy as well as outside observations. I know that this wasn't his first marriage but unfortunately for all it will be his last.

When I think about Kristy I think that she was one of the most misunderstood people I know. She came across as "pushy" or "nosy" or [insert your own favorite adjective] when in reality she was one of the most loving and caring persons I have ever known. I remember when she was getting to know my wife better she would come over and walk into the house and start checking things out. I would kind of chuckle while my wife would be put out. Then Kristy would say in her candid matter of fact way "You know I have a maid that is really inexpensive who could clean your blinds really well" Then she went ahead and arranged and paid for her to have it done right after we gave birth to our last child. At first my wife didn't know what to think about her but as she put down the barriers and truly got to know her she grew to love her as a dear friend. And that is how it is with Kristy, if you didn't know her you were somewhat put off by her but if you truly allowed yourself to get to know her you realized that you had a loyal and loving friend.

Yesterday when my wife came into the room I was lying down for a nap when I heard her sobbing, I immediately jumped out of bed and ran to her and she couldn't even talk she was crying so hard. When she finally told me I was speechless. I remember literally yelling "WHAT?" and then collapsing onto my bed.

As for Dave, what the hell posses a person to do such a horrible thing? I know that he wasn't the best husband or father but to stoop to this level is just sickening. I pity him so much, I know that as he sits in jail and the realization of what he has done finally starts to sink in that he will be in the depths of pain and anguish - essentially he will be in hell. I just can't begin to think of what has to snap within a person to make them do something like this.

Anyhow, I find comfort in the following scripture: Alma 60:13.

“For the Lord suffereth the righteous to be slain that his justice and judgement may come upon the wicked; therefore ye need not suppose that the righteous are lost because they are slain; but behold, they do enter into the rest of the Lord their God.”

Thank you for creating this site and please let us all know the funeral details as they come available.

Jon

January 7, 2008 at 10:36 AM
Kristy's Family and Friends: said...

Thank you Jon, that was an amazing tribute and you describe Kristy so well. She was a VERY special and different person and we all loved her so much for what set her apart. She pushed me to be a better person.
-Sarah.

January 7, 2008 at 10:40 AM
Anonymous said...

Jon,
Very well said. As you know we lived next door to Kristy and Dave for nearly 4 years until they moved, and though I never got to know Kristy well, I was fortunate enough to have had meaningful conversations with her in the front yard on several occasions over the years which gave me a glimpse into the kind and caring person that Kristy truly was.

I, for one appreciate your honesty and candidness. I think some of us have felt a measure of guilt since hearing of this tragedy for not getting to know Kristy better. Perhaps it is because we were either intimidated by her or as you aptly put, because we "misunderstood" her sometimes blunt approach. I found your comments very comforting.

What I can say that I do remember about Kristy very vividly from the almost 4 years as her next door neighbor and from being in the Jordan Meadows ward was that she had a very powerful testimony of the Savior and was not afraid to share it with others. She was always respectful and kind to our children, and always willing to serve her neighbors and ward members.

She deserved better than this tragedy, and it was heartbreaking to hear about the circumstances. May the Lord watch over and bless her children and loved ones in this unimaginably difficult time; and may she find peace in the rest of her Savior.

-Jerry-

January 7, 2008 at 2:22 PM
Anonymous said...

Jon,

Your comments made me laugh and remember Kristy with love. She did say whatever was on her mind, didn't she? And you are right, when we TRULY knew her, you accepted her and KNEW she wasn't a malicious person. Just didn't have a "built in censor" as she once said. I'll miss that.

January 7, 2008 at 2:39 PM
Di and Justin said...

Jon,
Thank you for your message. I have gotten to know Kristy this past year and at first meeting was shocked at the things she would say to me. But then after awhile I realized that if I wanted to hear the Truth I would call Kristy... She was honest and gave me advice even though it might not have been what I wanted to hear and vise versa... I bet she is up in Heaven giving a few pointers in how they can work on things... I will miss her greatly. I am sure she is up sharing her testimony to all those she comes in contact with.
Sara,
thanks for setting this up this blog, it has really helped w/ the loss we have all felt... she really had a lot of people that loved her. She has touched a lot of lives in more ways than we know.
Dianna

January 7, 2008 at 4:15 PM

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